If i had to give a TED talk, it would probably be about how the best way to help people is to not really help them at all, and to just be there for them I'm really interested in identifying the most effective ways to help friends/family/others cope with anxiety and depression, and I've found that a lot of people will coddle
holy cow I really like that alot why are you into that stuff?
In my school, we've had a few kids commit suicide, and they all have similar stories Their friends and families didn't understand them and just tried to "fix' them instead of letting them be
oh wow. I did too in my highschool!
It's always really sad, but I think that after tragedies like that it's important to track patterns of behavior Idk, I was just super affected by it, and I wanted to help somehow, so I started reading about treatment of both psychological and personality disorders Most of what I've read has suggested to allow people to come to you naturally, and that sometimes listening is more powerful than giving advice
ahhhh that is a great advice
Thanks!
you know I have an embarrassing thing
Yeah?
I used to be so unsympathetic towards people with mental illnesses because I grew up in a really harsh environment and I thought to myself that you just need to toughen up well when I got to my mission elder holland talked about depresseion and how its a real thing and how the atonement is the best antidote for that after that talk I prayed to have more sympathy for people with mental illnesses and the prayer was answered. I mean I still am still tough but I have a better understanding now
That's totally understandable! I come from a family that views mental illness as weakness. When all that stuff happened at my school I had to pray for understanding I'm glad our prayers were answered What would your TED talk be about?
well I think I would give a ted talk about how we need to express positive emotions verbally and outwardly for ourselves when we have hard situations because it really helps when you outwardly express something it changes the inside
I totally get that I was just talking to someone today about self-fulfilling prophesies and how saying something enough can make great things happen
i totally believe that! I think that we need to really focus on those thing and maybe one day I can really give a TED talk about that
That's awesome!
I think verbally speaking is an act of action and if we keep telling and saying it it will actually lead to the desired action that will drive positive change with us
I love watching those. I always feel so inspired when I do. I can spend a whole afternoon watching conference talk and TED talks
do you like to listen to podcasts?
Sometimes. They have to be really interesting for me to listen because typically I like seeing the speaker
I see
but if they're super good, I'll listen while working out
well let me interest you in a favorite channel of  mine. Its Ted Radio Hour from NPR. They take a topic and bring in different TED talks and the original speakers to talk about that topic and it is fun and interesting to listen to because it is condensed and the speakers are all different and they have different point of views
I love NPR and I love TED so I'm 100% going to listen in! Thanks!
please please please you wont regret it
I'm excited
what else are you passionate about? you seem like a very interesting person!
I listen to a podcast called Change Agent with Charles Duhigg (he's this awesome author) and he takes people's issue and connects it to completely irrelevant issues and the issues solve the problem very confusing, but very good I like to cook. Like, a LOT. I also knit, sing, craft and write literally everything. I'm really passionate about understanding people and being able to relate to others I love being able to help other people. That's one of the main reasons my bookshelf is covered in self-help books... so I can help others LOL What interests you?
I love to cook too! When I was growing up I watch my mom in the kitchen all the time and talked with her but I never really got to cook because I loved my moms cooking. well when I got to my mission I decided to cook in the kitchen for lunch and dinner and the memories of my mom cooking and what she did stayed with me and I practiced and practiced and got really good and I love to cook now!
That's awesome! A fun thing I did was I made a list of my favorite foods to order in, and I learned how to cook all of them at home. I can make Chinese takeout now! What are your favorite things to make?
chinese take out!! nice! well I am korean and I grew up eating korean food so that is what I am best at but I love to make anythhing that I feel like making and its so fun to make food for others . THat is my favorite part
Totally agree! Cooking isn't the same if no one else tries it!
Yeah! I love it when they enjoy my cooking and seeing them getting fed bring joy to me its weird hahaha I think what it is is that I am serving them
Yes, it's so rewarding I love making the plates/platters look really nice. I like garnishing every dish with a little herb like mint or parsley
oooh yes
My favorite time to cook is when it rains. I love cutting up veggies when it's completely pouring outside. I don't know why it's so soothing
woah I have never experienced that
it's the best
It needs to rain super hard in Provo so I can cut some peppers what is your favorite vegetable to cut?
I like carrots because they're a challenge for me It's so difficult but so rewarding to cut up a carrot
in what way? diced or  juliienne or what?
I like to julienne my carrots because they are easy to put in a bag and eat while I'm out they look like little pretzel sticks and they're so cute that way!
hahah thats awesome I love to cut onions because its really satisfying to cut them and the sound and the ring shapes are really fun. and i "cry" because its so much joy ;)
My eyes will never get used to onions. I've tried nearly everything It's so bad. I have to leave the room after a while
hahaha keep the window open or have like some air flow it helps
Yes. Always. Even when it's pouring i just like to cut all of my onions at once. I'll cut 2 days worth of onions so that I don't have to suffer through it every day
ooh that a great Idea!
Saves time too!
you know what i got in to lately? I got in to meal preps. I love on sundays to make a meal for the week so I don't have to worry about cooking food during my hectic school wee week
I've always been interested in that concept. it's definitely more convenient, but every time I've tried to meal prep, I end up missing cooking every day
I feel you.
It's like cooking is a ritual for me. It gets me relaxed to put on my music and my apron and to just focus on creating a meal
that is nice. I bet your roomates love you hahaha
Yeah, I'm definitely a more organized type
how long have you been at BYU?