I got good grades.
Haha that's a good one
What about you what would you say?
The friends I made.
Oh that is a good one
Yep I love my friends
I feel like it is hard to make friends
Really? Why?
You end up leaving them at the end of the semester And then you feel sad and it is like you have to start all over again Sometimes even between semesters I just moved to a new apartment complex and that kind of makes a big difference as well
Well, I'm still friends with most of my friends from my first apartment complex. They are great people. Some of them are even married now.
Oh wow Everyone seems to pair up and get married
No me my friend
Not you? Why not?
I don't usually go on a lot of dates.
Are you just shy or just not the right place right time?
I don't know that's a good question. I'm not shy that's not the problem
Well do you live in a social place?
I do, I was living in Raintree
Oh well that is good When was the last time you shook things up and made a new friend group?
That will happen next week when I get in Seattle
Oh. Are you going to school there or is that home? Oh wait NO It is a Microsoft internship I remember now Well that should be interesting
I hope so haha but I usually make friends really quick maybe that's the problem I might have friendzone written all over my face.
Why would that be a problem? You friend zone or they friend zone? Just because you are too friend like you mean?
I think both, so they don't try haha
HAhaha That would make sense Well I like moving around and trying new things
Me too except the packing part
Yeah I definitely agree with you there I think I kind of feel uncomfortable if people get to close and they sense that so they back off
Hahaha
Seriously I went on a date once and they girl was leaning into me and I think she wanted me to put my arm around her and I just felt weird about it So I didn't, but I totally should have The rest of the date was ok and it never turned into anything else
I see Well, if you don't feel comfortable, there's nothing you can do. I mean you shouldn't do something uncomfortable just because the other person wants
Well that isn't that problem I wanted to It just felt weird Those are two very different things It's like trying a food you don't like the look of for the first time It looks disgusting And every bone in your body is trying to keep you from putting it in your mouth You almost have to exert physical effort to get it in, but once it is in, you chew and swallow and may even find that it is the best thing that you have ever tasted
That is a very detailed description
It is more like an analogy
I know
Why was it too detailed?
I don't know, I guess just the every bone in your body part.
Oh Hahaha Yeah Well my point is that you have a lot resisting But that doesn't mean it is not something you want or even a bad thing at all And thats how dates and relationships go sometimes with me I am breaking down barriers though And being more proactive I used to be someone who wouldn't even start the conversation I don't remember why exactly Maybe for fear of offending the other person with the topic I brought up. I still tend to stay away from talking about subjects that the other person seems like they wouldn't agree on or think was interesting
What made you change and decide to come out of that?
Oh I have always wanted to It started in 4th grade I think
I'll be back in a sec
There was a kid that ruined my self esteem and confidence He ruined me socially. All my friends decided to stay away from me so that they wouldn't end up the same Spread rumors that weren't true that attacked my dignity And it was bad I talked to authorities but they didn't do anything I suppose there was nothing they could do though So when I hit middle school It was big enough that I never ran into that friend group Instead I layed low until people forgot But I kind of ended up missing out on a lot of social experiences And it carried on through high school So I never kissed a girl, rarely went to parties, and only went on a couple days. I kind of turned to video games for comfort I got worse and worse in my schoolwork I joined volleyball, my first school sport and student council and I met a really good friend group and I kind of got to the point where I had lots of friends But I still played video games and my grades were in the dumps
And what happened next? Or you still at the same spot...
Did you finish reading? I still had lots of friends who had me locked down with an undignified image and as the guy that wasn't very social or cool But I didn't care since I was leaving on my mission So I quit video games 6  months before leaving on my mission And left on my mission and came back after those two years A changed person Even more so than in high school, in fact far more so
That's good
Came here and it turns out when I actually believe in myself and motivate myself to work hard I don't have difficulty getting As in any class I am in
I'm glad you could work through it and become a better person.
So I set a goal of 4.0 and I am sticking to it I wouldn't have anything different I am a really stubborn person If there was a way out I was certain I would take it
In fact I'm glad you had the mind to just keep going and doing the best for yourself regardless of all the judgement
And there was nothing that could stop me
How is that going?
Well it is fine Life's good I am living at liberty square now, and lots of stuff is always going on I still have never been in a relationship but that is bound to change this semester I have opportunities I just need to get over myself
That is good Adam I'm happy for you a great example for everyone
I am sure People say that real turn around stories are rare
They're not
But they are only rare because people are rarely truly dedicated to doing everything (within moral reason) To change
we just need to listen to people and learn more about their stories
The church is filled with people who have done that On my mission I kept running into people who wanted a different life, but weren't willing to do what was necessary to change it And that was over 90 percent of people I met It takes humility too
I know they do that they want to change
Yeah
and you teach them how to do it
Most everyone does
but then they don't want it
Yep
because they don't want to change their behaviors just the outcomes
Yep
With time people learn
That is true Some people change faster than others And sometimes the time just isn't right for them to be open to action That applies to everyone Because everyone could change and become a better person at any point in your life There isn't really a limit to how good of a person you can become here
Yep and people have different timing to learn and do their things.