Hi! What do you think?
Hey! I think that would be really cool if it was possible but it's probably impossible so I have no idea what would happen. I'd have to consult a theoretically physicist. What do you think would happen?
Good question...I think it's impossible but if it was I'm pretty sure it would be majorly misused by humans.
Yeah. They could use it to do bad things. But also good things. Which begs the question, do you think humans are inherently good or evil?
I think humans are inherently good because we all have a conscience and a sense of morality but I think that it's become easier and easier for societal views to overcome the basic human conscience, thus making it seem as though humans are more inclined to evil What do you think?
That's an interesting point. I'd have to agree but I also think there exist people out there who are pretty much inherently evil. They maybe not have started that way but like you are saying for whatever reason they were overcome by the world and became pretty evil people and lost all regard for their inherent goodness. But those are just my thoughts. You have any fun plans today or this weekend?
Interesting, I hadn't thought of that! But I think that's pretty accurate, there are some people out there who are totally off the path Haha I still need to make it through the week! Not really,  what about you?
Yeah me too. I'm basically failing Biochem right now and need to figure out how to pull through that class. So my plans for the week are pretty much homework and trying to figure out that class.
Wow that is majorly rough What are you studying? Yeah the college life is a boring one, you always have to do homework, etc. Do you have any fun Halloween plans?
I'm studying Exercise Science. The only reason I have to take this class is because it's a prerequisite for Dental School. The college life is pretty boring indeed. Yeah I'm going with my wife to a friends house in our ward/church. We are having a halloween murder mystery dinner party. Should be pretty fun. What about you? Are you dressing up as anything?
Interesting, I didn't realize that would be a prereq for dental school, I thought all you had to know about was teeth That does sound fun! My husband and I both have class until 8 on Wednesdays so we are probably going to do nothing I do have a killer Hermione outfit but we will see...do you guys do couple costumes or anything like that? I'm trying to decide if it's lame or fun
Wow thats a long time to be on campus! How many credits are you currently taking? Yeah haha we are going to be Wizard of Oz characters.
Yeah it makes for long Wednesdays! Neither of us are taking very many (he's taking 13 and I'm taking 14) but Wednesday we both have 3 credit classes that only meet once a week That's so cute!!! What characters are you going as?
Oh so they are like night classes. I guess that makes sense. I don't do well in night classes I'd rather be done earlier and go home. She's going to be dorthy and I'm the lion And we have a baby who will be the Scarecrow.
Oh yeah I totally forgot what they were called. He's taking economics and I'm taking a flute masterclass, my class is required and only offered then and he had to take Econ so he took the night class so that we would have the same schedule, it's not super fun but oh well Oh that's way cute! How old is your baby?
Yeah well at least you are together! He is six months old! How long have you played the flute?
That's awesome, little kiddos are great! Has it been hard with a baby while still in college? I've been playing for almost a decade, which is pretty crazy!
They are the best! Well my wife doesn't do school so that's been nice because she can stay home with him and she loves that. Then we don't have to find a daycare or babysitter because we are away from both our families. So thats been nice. But other than that it's just been a little adjustment. It was hard when finals rolled around last semester and I was also studying to take the DAT. But now things have slowed down a little and the schedule is more stable so it's awesome. It's fun to be your own family. You get to decide how things are done! And just imagining what life will be like when the kids are older is fun too. Wow thats a long time to play I bet you are really good at the flute!
That's so convenient, and awesome for your wife! I'm always so impressed by people who have children in college
Yeah. Honestly I think more people need to do it.
My mom got married when she was 19 and had me and my two sisters before she graduated with her bachelor's and she tells these horror stories of having so many young children
It just helps so much.
to care for while taking classes that it's kind of scared me off But there are tons of people who pull it off and pull it off well
Well yeah it would be hard while taking classes.
So what advice would you give for how to best prioritize time/successfully care for a child while in college?
My wife's parent's both didn't go to college so they had a completely different childhood and have a different way of looking at things I guess. Advice...hmmm Well I can only tell you what we did. And what we did isn't for everyone. But hopefully it still helps. So I mentioned my wife didn't go to college. So that was an advantage because she now can focus on being a mom. I'm not saying that you should drop out of college. Education is important too. But I do know people that have their families first and then go back to school later. And it all works out for them. We just decided that family was going to come first. Before anything. So we did it and took the leap. We got pregnant and then applied for Medicaid to pay the expenses. Everything was covered 100% from the pre natal doctors visits to the delivery room. It was a huge blessing. So I guess that's my second piece of advice of why having kids in school is good. You are much more likely to qualify for government aid. Plus, it's fun to have young parents as a kid. At least I think so. So we didn't want to wait until we were done with school at all (especially because we are going to dental school and would be close to 30 by the time all was said and done.) The medical and scientific evidence for having kids in your 20s is also strong. It's much healthier for your body. Plus you never know if it might take longer for you because of some issue, so if it does you don't want to find out at 29 and have less time to deal with it. But the main reason (And i'm sorry if any of this sounded scary) is just that it is a commandment. They even said in general conference that Satan tries to discourage worthy parents from having kids. Because he wants to stop God's plan from moving forward and that is one big way to do that. Anyway, I've rambled enough about this. Bottom line: Kids are awesome and God will provide a way for everything to work out if you act in faith.
No thanks so much for your advice! It's a really important subject with a lot of different answers for everybody and we're trying to figure out what the specific plan for us is So hearing from people who have already been in our shoes and been in similar situations is really helpful
Yeah it is very important! And your welcome. Yeah it's like everyone says. It's a sacrifice but a huge blessing. And if you think about it long term, what you sacrifice is nothing compared to what you will received. But I think it's good that you are thinking of what you can do to make it work. A lot of people just think of ways to keep putting it off.
Thanks, that's really good to think about Is there anything you would have done differently?
I wish I wouldn't have been so afraid. My wife was the one pushing for it more than I was at the beginning. I was too scared. I made excuses about money and school and how I wanted to have time with my wife first. But really it all came down to fear and lack of faith. So I prayed about it. And one day I got the answer to just do it. That this leap of faith would strengthen my relationship with God and trust in him. Now looking back it's like "what were you afraid of!? this is the best blessing!" Like I literally had nothing to be afraid of because God was there every step of the way. And he is for everyone. So that fear I felt in the beginning is the only thing I would change. Other than that there is nothing I would do differently. Because doing things differently means that I might not have our son right now! And once you meet your kids it's like you've known them forever. So imagining life without them is just impossible.
That is really helpful I'm really sorry to get so deep or whatever, but it's something that's really been on my mind recently and I haven't been sure what to do
Yeah no problem. That's one thing that good about these chat rooms is that no one knows eachother and it's all anonymous so it makes it easier to just be open and honest and real So I'm happy to help. My wife just got here to pick me up! I have to go! But I really do wish you the best of luck!