hi there
Hey there again haha :) Want to end the other chat ?
yeah! i just ended it lol i love playing chit chat tag with you
To answer your other question, adolescents understand consequences as well as adults, but they just don't weigh the same. They don't CARE about the consequences. They just don't care. so no false doctrine here haha!
yeah youre right about that, i wonder how we could create a system for our children to teach them the consequences without the same repercussions right away
But I also feel like it'd be taking some of their agency away a little bit? Like, I needed to learn some things the hard way. Do we take that away from our youth?
yes i agree with you but there has to be a way to put them in a controlled environment where they are exposed to the things we deal with as adults on a smaller spectrum.
I think that's how things were in the 1800s. I think it'd just be too impossible with technology and society as it is today.
like for instance give them an allowance and help them do a complex project like plastic injection molding and let them fail and try again over and over till they get it right acting as a mentor to them rather than doing it all for them
Well, you might teach your children plastic injection molding haha but my kids would be out of luck then hahaha But yes I agree. Parents take over so often and are more "smothers" than "Mothers" in my opinion nowadays
i mean you could set them up on virtually any project you have expertise in. i think the important part about the process is letting them fail and understand that that will sometimes happen in real like and its okay to fail as long as you learn from it and keep going
That's true. If they feel like failure is where you should stop, they'll never push through and endure anything.
but i completely agree with the smothering aspect drives me nuts
Me too! I was raised with a "smother" but I do like some of the ways she parented were good though.
i love you. hahaha smother thats so good
It just really is a good way to think about it. It's the same realm as helictopor parenting. helicopter**
i agree with you. im glad you can look at the pros and cons to each side of it. and you probably learned a lot about how you will want to tune your parenting technique from her
I would be doing everyone a disservice if I didn't acknowledge both sides. And yes, for sure.
so thats begs the question. How many kids would you want to have?
Probably 5. But we'll see once they start coming!! hhaha!
lol are you married yet?
Yeah! Just celebrated a year.
wow congratulations! thats awesome! what did you guys do for your anniversary?
He took a practice MCAT haha. We also went to IHOP for breakfast, so that was fun :) We didn't want to spend a lot of money.
i feel you is it hard now that you are married with finances?
Yes and no. I feel like we budget really well and know our limits. We both work a little, but we do have scholarships, which helps a ton!
thats awesome! whats your significant other majoring in?
Biochem/premed *microbio hahaha
wow thats pretty impressive. how far along is he?
He graduates in a year :)
yayayay! so exciting for you guys! i was going to get married this summer but weve felt like we should wait till next april
Wait, really?? Are you guys officially engaged? That's so cool. And hey, putting it off a little is not bad at all :) Just got to follow the inspiration as it comes.
no we were going to get engaged but since we are waiting weve decided we dont need to get engaged yet
That's true. No need to have a long engagement. Just keep dating. How long have you two been dating? Do you like your future in-laws?
yeah, my girlfriend was having a really hard time with it because im not a citizen so once we get married itll take four years before i will get my citizenship. she wanted to get married right away so that we could get that process going because she would like to go live in korea for a time before we have kids.
Oh, that's so interesting. It's crazy how specific situations end up happening depending on who you decide to end up with.
but she finally went on a hike to the top of a mountain and sat down and talked to heavenly father about it and she felt very strongly that we should wait till april
It's great to get those confirmations
we started dating at the beginning of fall semester yeah it was really nice to finally have an answer
I bet. It kind of checks something of the mental and emotional checklist
yeah, it definitely credits everything in the sense that if trials come up you can feel comforted knowing that youre on the right path and you just need to keep sticking to it and everything will eventually work out the way its supposed to
That's true. It's easier to just keep plugging along. I am in accordance haha
so what do you guys want to do when you graduate? are you planning to stick around utah or do you want to go out of state?
He wants to go to Med School in Indiana so hopefully we head there. You? What is your girlfriend studying?