I feel hatred towards my mother when she told me that I was being overly negative about essentially everything. What do you think about that?
Her being critical hurts your feelings?
I feel like I'm hurt and angry while we're chatting about these topics.
I'm not trying to minimize your feelings, but feeling hatred towards anyone really isn't good for you. Maybe you feeling this way means there's some truth to what your mother is saying.
So she wins if I feel angry? No, this is why I hate my family. I should never speak to my mother ever again or else I'll end up being hurt.
That is just another extreme. You need to calm down and talk to your mother about this.