Women in my life like to accuse me of being controlling.
Really, is it all of the women you know accusing you of being controlling?
My girlfriend, my mom and every girl I've dated
If all of these people have independently come to the conclusion that you are controlling, then they probably have a point. Instead of getting mad at them for telling you how they feel, you should try to stop controlling others so much. It is wrong to control others' actions or to try to manipulate them into doing what you want.
Screw that, I don't need to be nice or to change. She is the problem, she needs to see that other people are just trying to achieve their goals and that it's okay to be nosy and controlling.
Would you have this opinion if one of these women was trying to control you? You really should try to give them the same freedom and respect that you want to have. Show them some trust and everyone will be happier.