How would you feel if I successfully gaslighted my wife
Are you serious? Why would you gaslight your wife?
My wife is not nice.
Even if your wife is not kind to you, gaslighting her is destructive and unsupportive of her. Let go of your antipathy and talk to her about how you feel.
WTF? It's not a big deal. She is driving me crazy and I don't want to be in this relationship anymore.
I just want you to be happy, and it sounds like you don't love her anymore. Have you considered divorcing her so that you don't need to put up with her shenanigans? It might make you happier to find someone else than to stay with your wife.