My mom's behavior has made me decide I'm not going to stand by her during a court hearing.
Why not? What did she do that made you not want to stand with her?
I don't want to support my judgmental and arrogant parent who some would call a family destroyer.
Your mom must have really hurt you in the past. Just because she is your mom, you don't have to agree with her behavior. There is also always the option to sit in the back of the courtroom during the hearing.
She did hurt me. I still feel hurt inside from all the drama she is always causing.
Even if she is your mom, you don't have to support bad behavior. You can love someone and not agree with them, and you can be related to someone and not love them because of how they act. Only go to the hearing if you think it will be good for you.