I'm not sure I love my bf but don't want to be alone
What are you wondering about in regards to your relationship?
I'm wondering if the other person is also in love with me
Its expected to be in a relationship if you actually like the person and not out of fear of being alone. People will look down on you if they find out you can't deal with being alone. You should work on your self confidence instead of relying on someone else to make you happy.
I will have to think about this later and try to love myself more.
Loving yourself is the first step to loving other people. Don't expect other people to make you happy because happiness starts with you.