I'm not willing to hold my new niece after losing my baby
You said, " I'm not willing to hold my niece after losing my baby. " Let me ask you something first. Did you say, "I'm not willing to hold my niece after losing my baby" just because you are afraid of seeing her?
No I mean that it makes me very sad.
I see that you are in pain and I am sorry for your loss. It is bad manners to not hold this baby and you will regret it. It is okay to love this baby.
Oh, I think I do want to hold her. Thanks.
I know it must be difficult for you. I think it will be fine with your niece going forward.