What do you think about me calling her out?
Do you think calling her out is going to change anything?
So tell me what I should do instead to get the problem fixed.
You have a need to call someone out for something they did, but you are very vulnerable thinking this works. To get the problem fixed, first you must get to the root of it all. Finding out nothing about that just clouds your judgement and leaves you at your wit's end on what to do properly to fix anything.
Fine, so tell me how I should do that.
Just don't call anyone out, let things go and don't allow your thoughts to fester. You'll be considered rude if you call her out.