I want my friends and family to stop buying me gifts
Why would that happen? Your wife told you that your family and friends should stop buying you gifts?
Yes, my wife is very jealous of the gifts that I am receiving.
Even if your wife is jealous, it's inappropriate to try to control the behavior of others just because of that jealousy. If your friends and family want to give you a gift, you should appreciate their thoughts and not try to refuse their generosity as it would be very rude to do so. If your wife is experiencing jealousy, you should talk with her and try to figure out the issue that is causing her to feel that way so changes can be made.
My wife is too controlling and she spoils my relationship with my family. I will treat my friends and family to a night out to the strip club.
Your wife shouldn't be telling what you can and cannot do, even manipulating your feelings like that. How about using that strip club event to explain to your family about it and show your appreciation, and then try to talk to a therapist with your wife?