I'm thinking about not cooperating with my mom when she refuses to help.
Seriously? Why wouldn't you want to cooperate with your mom?
She refuses to help me do things for my kids. I'm tired of her always telling me what to do.
It is good to have guidelines when dealing with family. Family should help each other when possible.
She needs to learn to deal with her own problems and not try to tell me what to do. I hate that bitch.
It sounds like you're pretty upset with your mother, but imagine how upset you are when she doesn't help you out and think about if that's the type of person you want to be? You should try helping family when they need it, and be the change that you'd like to see.