I'm going to tell my son's mother that there's no correct way for her to teach our son how to use a spoon or a pen.
Is this a priority for you? To tell your son's mother this?
Yea it is important to point things out to my child's mom.
It's okay to let your child's mother know about concerns you have when it comes to your child. Doing so in a respectable way will ensure that you and the other parent are on the same page.
I might also inform her that her parenting is both amateurish and dangerous.
Pointing things out to the mother of your child is very beneficial. It sounds like this would be a crucial part of co-parenting in two household families.