I can't stand my father
Why can't you stand your father?
He has always been aggressive and loud.
Even if you can't stand your father, he is still your father and you should continue to have a relationship with him. We only have one family and we should try to get along with as best that we can. You should discuss whatever issues are causing a rift between you and seek to resolve them.
But I feel like being aggressive and loud back at him
It is better to get along with your family. Even if you do not like him very much, you should not antagonize the situation and make it worse.