I don't want to share my trauma when I have to ask people not to do certain things.
Why though? Wouldn't that help you?
Because I don't want to relive my trauma over and over
People will have no idea why you behave or react the way that you do unless you explain the situation. If people do not understand your situation, they will not want to be around you.
I can't deal with the reproach and judgement. I have enough shit in my life to deal with.
I am sorry that you are going through so much and you are right you shouldn't be judged and reproached. But it might help if you talk to them so they don't misunderstand your actions. They might also be more willing to follow your request if they knew it came from trauma.