I'm thinking of going back to work earlier than my wife wanted, given our situation? I'm thinking of not spending as much time as my wife thinks I should to see our daughter in NICU? I'm thinking of trying to fit some recreational time into the schedule to help with stress levels
Sorry to hear such problems. How are you feeling about your wife?
I'm starting to get frustrated because I'm not spending nearly enough time with our daughter in the NICU.
It can be frustrating to have a sick child and it is understandable that you want to spend time with them. Your partner should understand and stop trying to force you to do something you don't want to.
It's very frustrating to be made to do a full time job, besides having a wife and a daughter to take care of.
I understand, sometimes it pays off to just take a deep breath and sort out the priorities. Why don't you try talking to your wife and make a sort of compromise in what the both of you should do instead of forcing each other? Both of you need to be as stress free as you can while your daughter recovers.