I'm thinking of "refusing food" from my teenage daughter
Why are you trying to make her feel bad?
Because she won't listen to me. When my older daughter was born, I had hoped for a miracle, but no. Even worse is the fact that she refuses my help after I worked hard for it
Even if you did everything you did for your daughters, you can't expect them to do the same for you. You are the parent and it was your responsibility, it is not theirs to fulfill your whim. It will make them want to stop talking to you.
That's why I'm just going to refuse food.
You should just eat the food that she made for you, it would make her so happy. It is rare that your kids are going to do this, you should appreciate it while they are still doing these nice things for you.