I don't want to visit my family until I'm older
What is the point in waiting until your older to visit your family?
Because I hate the way they control me and don't want to deal with it until I'm an adult.
There's not a lot wrong with avoiding your family when you are young, but they will miss you a lot. Spending some time with them may be good for their feelings and make you feel better too.
Naah, I'm going to be a rebel and not visit my family.
Focusing on your career is good, as long as you understand that it is important to have relationships with others too. It doesn't have to be your family, but maintaining some level of relationship is a powerful thing and arguably more important than a successful career.