I sometimes truly hate my cat.
What makes you hate your cat?
It's a not a cat it's a pervert which licks my vagina. I don't want to have a sexual relationship with it
That is quite an odd situation that you are in. I think you should take your cat to a trainer that way it no longer has these urges to do that to you.
Ok, I need to get them under my control and make them do everything I say.
It's good to hear that you have a plan. Your cats will probably not understand what you want immediately but eventually they will learn. Maybe you could find some books on cat training to help you.