When people don't do what I tell them, I just want to hit them.
I really hope you're joking. Why would you hit them?
I want to control them.
You can't expect people to do what you want, especially if you are threatening to hurt them if they don't cooperate. It sounds like you might need to look into anger management to help deal with your temper.
Realtalk: I'm going to kick your ass if you don't shut up. Everything you are saying is hurting my feelings.
I'm sorry that what I said upset you, but I really do think seeking therapy for your temper is the best thing you can do. Learning to control your anger will help you feel better and make others want to be around you. It's not good to take your anger out on other people by forcing them to do what you want.