Can I expect my wife to do more of the housework because I bring in more income?
That sounds a bit unfair, but what prompted you to think that your wife should do more of the housework?
I need to be fair towards myself
You and your wife both work, therefore, any consideration of income to try and tip the scales of housework duties in your favor is wrong. Split the tasks in your home 50/50.
I don't want to tell my wife this, but I'll let her know later. She'll probably get mad at me but I'll ignore her.
Actually, since you both bring in a good income, why not just hire a housemaid to do all the cleaning? They aren't expensive, and you probably just need the person one to two days a week. This way, both of you will free up a lot of time and can probably go out and have fun.