I'm going to confront my mom and tell her everything that she has ever done wrong.
What has she done to you that makes you want to unload on her?
I'm going to tell her exactly what she did to me.
If your parents have done something to deeply hurt you then confronting them makes sense. However, you shouldn't just criticize every little thing they've ever done because most of it was most likely for your benefit.
But I want to tell her how disappointed I am at her as a parent.
That's a start. It sounds like these issues have become overwhelming over time. I would suggest you work this out with a family counselor.