I've been holding a grudge against my family for giving my cat away to an animal shelter and I still can't get over it almost 9 years later
How do you feel about holding this grudge against your family?
I'm not doing this for me. My cat would be dead by now after all these years. I miss my beloved pet every day of the year.
I understand that you are hurt about losing your beloved cat. However, you should not hold a grudge against your family about this. It's possible that they knew the cat could not be properly cared for when they gave it to the shelter.
I've been treating my pet better than my family and I just can't believe they gave her away.
You shouldn't treat a pet better than your family. It's okay to treat a pet like family but better than a family is obsessive.