How do you feel if I told you my boyfriend not working?
He should be working to support the relationship. Does that bother you that he's not working?
I just want to destroy him and we fight constantly
Your relationship sounds like crap if I'm being honest. There are constructive ways to 'fight', but I don't think you guys are doing that.
It's fine, his mom died and now he's depressed. We had a fight and I didn't want to see him anymore.
It sounds like your boyfriend might be depressed and the death of his mother zapped away his energy and will to live. Maybe you should try and just be there for him and give him some time. Maybe he will come around later because he is probably still mourning the loss.