Should I tell my brother to f off and destroy the plant vase in my house?
That's mean. Why do you feel this way?
He never listens to me and he always stays late in my house
It is rude to yell and break your own items. You should set boundaries with your siblings and let them know your limits.
I can't set up limits since they are my only family now.
Even if they are your only family, you would have a better relationship by setting limits. You will also have more of your things if you stop destroying your items when you are angry at them.