Where did little Becky go during the fire In the ash tray
What do you mean to imply with a statement like that?
I mean, I don't think she was there. I only mentioned it in a joke.
Making jokes about children dying in fires is no laughing matter.  If a friend of yours had lost a child in an accident, surely you wouldn't say such a thing, so why subject others to this kind of humor if you don't know what might have happened in their past?