I'm expecting something for valentine's day from my so even though he's very stressed and busy
Expecting, or just hoping?
A hope, but a very desperate one
You seem aware that he's not only stressed, but very busy as well. Instead of expectations, maybe have some consideration for his situation instead.
A friend or lover who doesn't at least surprise his partner with something says a lot about the individual and it's very disrespectful
And a partner who isn't understanding or considerate speaks volumes as well. It's just Valentine's Day, so cut him some slack.