I hate the way I look but can never push or motivate myself enough to make a change. Am I just not trying hard enough? Sometimes I feel like I'm doing all I can to push myself and the motivation isn't there so I never know what to do.
Wow, that sounds like a tough situation. What about your appearance do you want to change?
I want to be much tanner because my pale skin sucks.
Wanting to change yourself for the better is great but your skin shouldn't be one of those things. Appreciate yourself for who you are and make strives to be better, not different. If you want help with other things I'll be glad to support you.
But I just want to feel better about myself and I'm sure if I were tanner I would feel better.
I understand where you're coming from, but I don't think being tanner will really make you feel any different. I think you should learn to accept your skin for what it is, rather than trying to make it tanner, which is potentially dangerous.