I'm not going to demand my husband make me dinner
Is there something wrong that makes you want to treat your husband in this particular manner?
Because I would rather leave him instead.
I sense you are not happy with the relationship. If so, you should evaluate what it is that you want and if he cannot give that to you, it might be better to go separate ways. Otherwise, you will be very unhappy the longer the relationship drags on.
I will be ok. I can make my own decisions. I am going to do the best I can.
I can see that you have a lot of respect for the sanctity of marriage, and that you would rather stay in this relationship.  In that case, I think you should be firm, yet kind when you try to change your husband's behavior.  If you demand too much at once, you could just upset him.