if my wife is sick and trowing up, I am not going to take care of her.
Why don't you want to comfort her?
I don't want her to rely on me too much.
It is wrong to ignore a spouse when they are sick. You come off as crass and she might decide to leave you if you are mean to her.
It's bad to leave a sick lady alone. I'm only doing it because I love her.
That is not how you show love. You need to take care of her while she is sick and show her you love her.