I wonder if using the term autistic is considered an insult when talking to a friend. I think I will ask someone.
Do you think using the term autistic is bad or insulting?
I don't care about the individual, I just want to know what they think on this matter.
I understand you want your friend's opinion on the matter, but you should take the individual you are talking about into consideration. Some people may find different things insulting.
Does it matter that she hates my guts?
Maybe? It is good to consider how different people may feel about different words when talking to them.