I'm going to ask the guy I am seeing to either stick up for me or cut ties with his female friend
Why isn't your boyfriend sticking up for you?
He wants to play both sides with his friend.
It is difficult to manage a relationship but setting boundaries is good. It will help the person know what you want in a relationship.
I want him to decide which me is better: me or the dooshy girl.
It sounds like he is in a tough spot and wants to keep you both as friends. Perhaps consider allowing him to not lose a friend but tell him that he needs to make you his number one priority.