I'm going to load the dishwasher however I want to without the jetclean police watching me over my shoulder
What about the jetclean police is bothering you?
I hate the jetclean police nagging me all the time, they are idiots
As long as the dishes get clean, it does seem annoying to have someone constantly telling you how to do things. You should talk to your partner about how their behavior makes you feel.
If I want to operate with 5hr, I will operate with 5hr and I don't care if it makes you feel dumb.
I understand that you won't always get along with your partner, but you should still treat them with respect. They only want the dishes as clean as possible, in order to make sure you're all eating on clean and sanitary plates!