My daughter has me at the end of my rope. I'm thinking about disowning her if she does anything else that I don't approve of.
Why would do something so extreme as disowning your own daughter?
I don't want to waste resources and time on someone who isn't capable of listening
As a parent, your responsible for nurturing and supporting your children. You should not feel the need to control all aspects of your daughters desires. Disowning your child will leave you with a lot of regret in your old age and she will be too resentful to consider you.
If a person that makes the same mistake over and over again, don't listen to me and doesn't accept my discipline, I would consider disowning them.
You need to find a way to love and support your children no matter what until they're at least 18. Have you considered family counseling sessions. That could be a great help in teaching you guys how to communicate better and understand each other.