I was so happy when my wife had bariatric surgery, lost all that weight, and got thin. Now, ten years later she is starting to gain weight and I'm secretly unhappy about that.
What are you unhappy about your wife gaining weight?
She's just a fat ugly pig and I hate it.
Wanting your wife to be healthy is understandable, but you should be supportive and not speak of her so poorly. You should think about how you are feeling and have more respect and understanding towards your wife.
I can't help that I'm scared of the weight coming back. I don't want her to be ugly again.
It's not right to call your wife ugly just because she may have gained some weight. How would you feel if she called you ugly?