I ghosted my mom 3 years ago
Why did you ghost your mom?
I was deeply frustrated with her and I don't want to talk with her.
If you avoid contact with your mother then how will you ever work through any issues you two have with one an other?
I don't want to hear about how bad my life is going and how I need to make better choices. I want to be a drag queen.
Dealing with family can be incredibly difficult and even impossible at times. However ignoring them completely is just ignoring a problem that could benefit you both if its solved. It's better to be receptive in a relationship so that maybe one day things can change.