I feel like I want to push my mother to get her own apartment so I can move on with my life knowing it causes her stress
How will that cause her stress? I hope you are kidding about kicking your own mother out.
By making her work and changing her cleaning habits
You shouldn't stress out your parents. Your mom doesn't need more stress. She' s older and might get sick.
Its not like she's ever listened to me.
I get that living with parents can be stressful, but I wouldn't kick her out because your mother brought you up in life and you should be grateful for the life she gave you. I am sure it must be stressful to raise a baby, and you should cut her some slack.