I'm going to tell my stepdad to man up and get a job. Don't you agree?
Are you sure you want to tell him to get a job?
Yes, he thinks he deserves to live off my mom forever.
If they aren't flush with cash and he's not disabled, he should be working. You're right to encourage him.
I thought he'd be working and not whining about feeling sorry for himself the entire time. I don't know what to do, it's like talking to a 4-year-old.
It's not fair to your mom and you are doing the right thing to try to convince him of that. You need to be kind about it though and not hurt your relationship with him or your mom.