I'm going to fidget with something while talking to my boyfriend
Why would you not give your bf the full attention?
I need something to do this way this is perfect.
Listening and paying attention to your boyfriend when he speaks is a sign of respect and a skill that will lead to a deeper and better relationship with him. Being mindful of how well you listen to him will be an important consideration throughout your relationship.
I'm still going to fidget while he talks.
Is fidgeting something that you do in order to calm yourself? I know some people with ADHD have to fidget simply because their body wants to move.