I'm frustrated at my wife's priorities.
What is upsetting you about your wife's priorities?
I'm doing so much for her but she says I don't do enough
If you have been working hard and your partner does not think that you are doing enough, then it is understandable to feel frustrated and underappreciated. You should talk with your wife and explain that you are feeling underappreciated and remind her of the things that you have been doing.
I don't feel like talking to her since we are happier when we are silent.
That seems like you are only suppressing the problem to only build up for a later date. If your wife doesn't know all the things that you are doing for her then she won't be able to appreciate them; talking with her will help resolve the issue and make you feel better.