I don't care that my husband's headphones broke
Why don't you care if your husband's headphones broke?
If you don't take care of your property what else can you expect?
You should care more about your husband. It may be his fault for not taking care of the headphones, but you should care about him enough to buy him a new pair or just listen to him about it.
I'm going to make him feel bad about breaking his headphones. He does not deserve new ones.
That sounds very selfish. If something else is bothering you you should not blow up over headphones. I think going to couples therapy might get the weight of frustration off your chest.