I'm not going to let my daughter's father see her on holidays
Why not?
Because if I let him see her he might believe that he has the right to meet her.
It's not right to prevent him from wanting to see the daughter he loves. You should be willing to give equal time for your daughter.
But I hate him, I want to teach my daughter to hate him too. She's better off without a male in her life.
Hey that is unfair to everyone involved! If she wants to see her dad she deserves to have a healthy loving relationship. You know one day she could be so angry at you for denying her the chance that she cuts you off completely.