Is it wrong to ask my brother not to bring his husband to my wedding because of my fiance's homophobic family?
Don't you think that would hurt your brother's feelings?
It does offend me that I might have to ask him.
You shouldn't exclude your brother because of your fiance's family. It is bad to give in to homophobic people's demands and your family should come first before them.
This is a nightmare.
I understand why you feel conflicted, but he is your brother and you shouldn't exclude him. Just because your fiance's family is homophobic doesn't mean you have to give into their beliefs and exclude your brother because he is gay. Think about how much that would hurt your brother.