How can you get a grip on your life?
I am not sure. My friend's dad is dying of cancer and I feel like I really don't have a grip in my life. How can you help?
Have you tried reading a book about cancer? It might help you deal with the issue.
You are right, it is useful to read materials to help you understand some situations. And it is normal to look to self help books when you need a new perspective.
I mean he needs a book as he is the one dying, like a how to die of cancer,  lol.
While I appreciate your concern about my well being, I find it inappropriate to make fun of my friend's dying father and laugh about it. Laughter is a good way to cope with life, but it needs to be appropriate all the time.