Can I play Catan my way?
Do you feel your friends are ruining your strategy?
Yes, I'm sure they are good players also but they never listen to my ideas.
It is nice to win but it is not good to let it be the focus of the game. By trying to control your friends way of playing you will make it so they don't want to play with you.
Bla bla bla. I got the resources I need, who cares about anything else.
If your friends don't want to do it, then they will just stop playing with you if you continue trying to push the issue. Wouldn't you rather have people to play with than try arguing over playing the game how you want it to be played?