I use online erp as an escape
What are you trying to escape from?
Daily stressors and things like that.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to escape from stress. Everyone needs a break from things like that.
Other's tell me that I should not be doing online ERP to escape.
As long you are hurting no one, you can keep doing ERP. Other people may not see it as an outlet for stress, but they need to see that it does help you out.