I didn't have the house clean when my wife got home
How did not having the house clean make you feel?
I feel really embarrassed and sad and I feel like a failure
Try and clean more during the day. It can be time consuming and tiring, but it is worth it in the end.
Okay...
Maybe you can make a plan for your day that includes the chores that need to get done. It can make it easier to get them done.