So, are you a lesbian because you are plus sized, or because some man treated you wrong?
What does one even have to do with the other?
I'm actually trying to say that it's a choice and it's not just some accident because someone, who was an attempted heterosexual, was mistreated by men and that gave her lesbian thoughts.
The belief that lesbian women have chosen their sexuality because they're angry at men is a stereotype that has no basis in reality. No one chooses their sexuality. I think if you talked to a few lesbian women then you would see that they don't just hate men, and that your preconceived notions about them are wrong.
So you're saying I'm full of shit and you don't believe me?
I am saying that you are mistaken about what you think of lesbians. And those beliefs can be hurtful. You are saying that they can choose to love somebody of the other sex when they do not feel that way.