Maybe I am the problem for my relationship with my intrusive thoughts. Do you think I am ruining it just by expressing them?
Why are you concerned about your thoughts?
My friends tell me they always see me as a woman with a problem.
You should have a nice long conversation with your partner about these problems of yours. You clearly can not deal with it yourself, so you'll need some help from your partner.
I am a bad person already, so why would I bother?
Once you two get a chance to talk you can work out the issues that the two of you have. It takes an open discussion to get through issues like this.