Is it okay if I tell my girlfriend that she's negative and that many of her problems are possibly her own undoing?
What is she doing that makes her seem negative?
It's not that difficult to figure out. She always passes the blame on to other people instead of accepting herself for who she is.
It is hurtful to tell your loved one that they are causing their own problems. This can only make her more negative really.
She deserves it.
Bare honesty rarely solves anything. Try to sugarcoat the issue and demonstrate how she is not trying to change or fix her problems. Offer her some solutions and support her when she tries to be a better person.