Can I spank my ex-gf for dealing with her problems badly?
Why would you resort to spanking her for this?
She's been dealing with her problems very badly and I can see that she keeps making things worse.
No matter how badly she's dealing with her problems you can't just spank people. Tell her, verbally, that you think she's not handling her problems well.
I don't want to talk about it, I just want to spank her.
It is expected that adults talk about issues and your girlfriend would get mad if you try to spank her.