I'm going to tell my wife to take a painkiller and tell her to stop feeling so sorry for herself
What was the purpose of taking out the painkiller ?
She is in a lot of pain and I think that it will help her.
Maybe she is trying to avoid taking the painkillers again. You should let her decide if that is something that she wants to do or not.
I'm trying to help her.
That's fine, but give her space to do what she wants to do.