I'm thinking of my mom and wife catching me with another man
Why do you want to be caught cheating?
I want them to see who's actually doing it instead of blaming me
I know that you do not like to be blamed of cheating when they do not have any evidence but you should not actuality cheat just to show them up. It is wrong to cheat on your partner.
If I'm going to be accused anyway, I'd rather be guilty.
If things are that bad it might be better to divorce. Cheating would still make you the villain.