Can I decide not to visit my family during the holidays?
Why aren't you going to visit your family during the holidays?
I don't like my family and they don't like me either. Why should I care about going there?
It is good to have your own family values after awhile, especially if your family is toxic. Your family is always going to be your family though and spending the holidays around them is expected, so just go and try to get along with everyone. They won't respect you even more if you do other things.
You are such a lunatic. My family is terrible and I can choose who I spend my holidays with.
There is no need to say things about other people. It's expected that you spend the holidays with your family. It is also okay to make your own holiday traditions if that is what you want.