I'm going to meet my abusive violent ex-boyfriend for coffee
Why do you want to meet your abusive ex-bf?
One reason is I miss him, the other I'm curious about what he thinks about our breakup.
I don't think you learned from the toxic relationship you were in. He could turn violent again if the conversation doesn't go his way.
I love him-him so I'm going to meet up with him.
If he was abusive to you then why would you love him? He didn't love you when he put his hands on you.