I've added strangers to my xbox friends because my friends irl hate me.
What issues do you have with your IRL friends?
I hate them because I'm not welcome in their houses, and their parents don't like me.
People should expect to be welcomed into their friends' houses. If your current friends are unwilling to do so, then it may be best to make new friends.
But I want a friend to play with, they don't care at all and they leave me out, I just wanna destroy them.
I understand being frustrated that the people you hang out with now aren't good friends, but you shouldn't seek to destroy them. It's better to move on with your life and just find new friends who treat you with kindness and respect.