I don't want to date single moms even though I have a child
Do you think that you have double standards when it comes to parenting?
Probably
Dating single parents can be complicated so it is understandable having second thoughts about dating them but when you yourself have children, it is hypocritical to not want to date them. You will be judge very harshly about this by others especially if you cut your child out of your life too.
I just don't want to deal with more kids.
Still, you are a hypocrite here. You need to reassess your views of single parents.