Jack called and said he had a surprise for dinner last night.
How was the surprise?
I was pissed off. I hate surprises. This is not my idea of a proper date.
It's okay to not like surprises. Maybe you can communicate what forms of dates are most meaningful to you? How else would someone know if you don't tell them?
It's not my fault I'm basically a kid.
It's not about being at fault or not. Communication around needs and desires is healthy in a relationship.