I'm thinking of blowing up and being offended after being accused of being a part of the church of scientology by a family member.
Do you have a real problem with this accusation? Is it true?
I am tired of hearing her shit about me
It's fine to be annoyed by things your family members say, but it's inappropriate to fly off the handle at them. You should calmly explain to your family member that what she is saying is untrue and is making you upset.
I hate you, it's not acceptable and wrong to tell me how to deal with my family member
It is wrong to create more family drama if you are hurt. You should try to make amends and if you can't you should try to avoid them then.