When I have my kids, I want to get a babysitter to watch them.
Have you discussed this with your partner?
Yes, she said I don't need a babysitter and she told me not to disturb her precious social butterfly activities.
You shouldn't feel bad for needing a babysitter for your kids. Instead, you should get a babysitter so that you can accomplish the tasks that you need to accomplish.
I should just let my kids rot and stay in the house they will be happy.
If that's your attitude, then you shouldn't have kids. You can prioritize yourself, but when you have kids you need to make sure they are taken care of as well.