I'm going to tell my friend to grow the fuck up and get a job already
Is there a good reason for telling him to grow up?
Yes, I want him to get a job, stop being a leech.
Friends are supposed to be there for each other and you should take action if you think they are hurting themselves. At least you tried to make his life better.
Nah, I just want to make a point that I don't need him.
It is ok if you don't need him it can be bad if people are clingy. Sometimes it might take people longer to grow up there is no one size fits all approach to take in life.