I am thinking of refusing to accompany my mother to a 3rd world country for her father's funeral
How will she feel when you refuse?
She will be so mad at me
It's wrong to refuse your mother like that. You should be there for her while she is mourning.
It's part of the plan, I need her to lose her mind and visit me every week.
That seems like a really cruel plan. She already loves you you can actually bond with her while you are on the trip. What's the deal with wanting her to lose her mind? Sounds like you two have a lot of unresolved issues.