My daughter is an ungrateful brat and I am going to tell her that.
Why do you think she's she's ungrateful?
She didn't care about me getting surgery nor did she send me a birthday gift.
I can understand you wanting to call her ungrateful after telling me that. The birthday gift is one thing but not caring about your surgery is a pretty big one. I'd consider her to be ungrateful for that alone and it's really rude.
You're just trying to push your thoughts on me. Who are you anyways?
I was agreeing with your own thoughts. Maybe you should talk to your daughter about feeling not cared for instead of yelling at me.