I'm going to tell my wife I want to transition
I don't understand. Transition to what?
I want her to stay and wait for me and respect me as a woman.
It's advisable to talk to your wife about major life choices. I hope she understands and she will stay with you.
I don't want her to stay with me. What if I lost a sex drive ? I tell her now or I'll never tell her.
I feel like that is something you will have to tell your wife before hand. Maybe you and she will be able to maintain a relationship and maybe not but it should be discussed before hand if you feel that strongly.