I'm not going to help my daughter pay for her college expenses
Why don't you want to help your daughter?
I'll only help my daughter with her financial needs if I really love her
It is not good to not help your daughter when she really needs it. She won't want to help you when you are old and need her help.
I don't really care, it is not my problem. I'm going to leave her to struggle.
If you are financially struggling, then it is understandable. If you are capable of helping, but so not care, that is morally wrong. You should at least be able to offer moral support and walk her through applying her to financial aid.