Do you think it's OK that I still have feelings for my ex from years ago? I haven't had a relationship since even though I could have. The problem is I kept thinking of my ex when I'm talking to potential a potential S.O.
Did you think about your ex when talking to old friends too?
No. I would run away if I thought of my ex when I was talking to an old friend.
It's okay to have feelings about an old relationship. You shouldn't let those feelings prevent you from forming new relationships. It's hard to move on if you're stuck in the past.
I'm not stuck in the past. I just talked to an old friend, my ex happened to be on my mind. I'm not going to let myself stop living because I feel stupid feelings again.
You sound a little confused to me. You say you're not stuck in the past, but at the same time you say thoughts of you girlfriend are preventing you from developing new relationships. Counseling can help you navigate through this; imagine how much better you'll feel when you're freed from the past.