Real question is do feminist liberal bigots understand that different rules for men/women is sexism
I think you might be misunderstanding feminism. Why do you feel this way toward women and liberal audiences?
They have no concept of real world so they automatically assume that every rule must be equal for men and women.
Feminism is an important topic to women because of the historical ways women have been undervalued and oppressed. It's a misconception to think that feminists want there to be different rules for men and women. It might be helpful to actually read some feminist literature before you make assumptions about their beliefs.