Whats the worst part about your wife dying? Cleaning the bat
Do you think it's funny to make jokes about murdering your wife?
ive said it before. humor is about death and pain. either by creating a good joke, or by laughing at a bad one.
Very few people would agree with you that humor should be painful, as most people believe the exact opposite.  If you want to continue to make jokes about women being beaten, as horrific as such actions are, you should ensure that you are talking only among people who actually see humor in darkness.