I'm thinking of including stipulations on purchasing the family home from mom
Why do you need to do that?
She seems like the kind of person that would interpret it as an attack, she would never keep her end of the bargain.
I feel like if you don't fully trust your mom it is okay to have stipulations with the purchase of the house. However, I would talk with your mom in order to try and convince her you aren't doing this to attack her.
I know that I'm mean but it's also her fault for making me like this.
I don't think you're being mean, I think you're trying to protect yourself.  In order to bring this situation to a satisfactory end, I suggest you try and convince your mom of this.