I've been in an abusive relationship with a married man for 7 years and I'm the pursuer and the person being abused
That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Why are you choosing to stay in it?
I love him so much.
You should be more aware of your value as a person. Not only are you disrespecting your self by being with a married man, but being in an abusive relationship shows a lack of love from your partner. You should practice self-love daily.
I'm tired of these feminist. I don't need your worldview. I am happy being a woman.
Being a woman doesn't need to include being abused in your relationship. I think you should break it off with this man, and look for someone who can treat you better.