I want my mom to just back off my life
Are you serious? Why do you want her to back off of your life?
I'm tired of the shit she puts me through
It's mean to be rude to your parents. Your parents should always have a spot in your life.
She's still going to visit me and ruin my life.
I'm sorry that you feel like she's ruining your life, it's fine to not get along with her sometimes. I hope she treats you better on this visit.