I haven't done much for my birthday and it's really upsetting me.
Do you think you could have planned for it better?
No, it's just that my friends were to lazy to do anything for me.
While your birthday is important to you, it is not a huge thing for your friend's life and they might have a lot going on in their life. It is good to not expect others to go and do something big for your birthday.
I know but I still had high expectations.
I understand having high expectations for your birthday. But you shouldn't expect the world from people. Lowering your expectations could be beneficial for you.