I'm frustrated with my wife because she won't change her name on her Gmail account. We've been married for 5 years and she should change her name on her account.
Maybe she doesn't want to change it. Why does it bother you so much that she hasn't changed it?
I just want her to be proud of my name and show everyone how much it means to her.
While many women take their husband's surname in marriage, there is an increasing number that do not. You should not consider your wife to be your property that belongs only to you and it's unacceptable to force her to change her surname to match yours. That is something that only your wife can decide on what to do and you should be more accepting of her choice.
I'm considering her property, I just want her to be proud of my name and have her take it as her own. Is that too much to ask?
I understand how you feel. You should explain your feelings to her because she may not understand how deeply it affects you. You can't force her to change her name but after you tell her how you feel she may reconsider.