Do you think it's wrong for me to uninvite my friend to a party?
That would be hurtful. Why would you want to uninvite your friend to a party?
She was rude to me and didn't want to hang out with our friends anymore.
Losing a friend because of one wrong interaction can be regretful. Your friend could have been having a rough day and needed some time alone. Give them some space and when they come around, invite them to hang out again.
Fuck no, I don't want her to hurt me and I'm going to make a big deal out of this.
It seems there could be a misunderstanding between you and your friend. Uninviting her will only make matters worse. It's best to talk to her and understand why she may not have shown up at a seperate occasion.