I want to tell my wife she can't attend her sister's bachelorette party.
Why do you think that's necessary?
Because I'm a jerk and I want to control her life.
That's a pretty unhealthy mindset. If you really love your spouse you need to be able to trust her and let her do what she wants. Trying to control her life is going to hurt both you and her.
Shut up, you're stupid.
I'm sorry you feel that way, buy I believe that I'm right when I say that you can't tell your wife what she is and isn't allowed to do. That kind of behavior is terrible and potentially abusive. I think you should stop being so controlling.