I want to be the kind of guy who satisfies my wife in bed.
Is this something that is so important for you?
It would just be nice to be able to be good for her.
It is good to want to satisfy your wife in bed. If you have concerns, you should talk openly and candidly with your wife about what she wants and what you can change to make both of you happier and more satisfied.
Worrying everyday if I'm satisfying is going to drive me crazy. I should ignore her if I'm not satisfying her.
You shouldn't ignore your wife and it is going to be hard to do. It is nice when you can please your partner sexually, but you need to communicate to do so. You need to find out what will make you both happy.