I want to ask my wife to move on from the fact that my dad doesn't call our son by his name
Why does your wife need to move on from this?
Our son just wants to have a grandpa
It is wrong to have your kid disrespected by a family member. You should talk with your wife about it and get her to understand the situation.
I don't care, I want to take my revenge out on her since she's always trying to control me.
Revenge is never the answer, your whole family deserves a happy relationship. While it's fine to get mad over things you don't approve, it would be better to talk out all problems and sort them out instead of hurting them. You'll be able to get to know each other even better.