I like my women how I like my cheese. Chopped up, and left to age for five years.
I don't think that kind of comment about victims of violence is OK.
It's a joke, I don't know how that's not obvious.
That kind of joke trivializes the real harm that women face. Consider that women are often victimized in gruesome ways. This kind of joke is very hurtful to people who have lost a loved one to such violence.