I've had one doozy of a shocking day. I found out my wife is a hacker and that she cheats on me.
That really is a lot for one day. Did you ever suspect her of being a hacker?
I never suspected her of that.
It can be really frustrating to find out secrets about your wife and especially that she's cheating on you. It's really improper keep secrets and to cheat on your partner, she should've told you this from the beginning and told you she was no longer interested instead of cheating. If she continues this path it is only going to harm your relationship more and more.
Her actions are hurtful to me but I'm used to it from having had multiple other wives.
The fact that you have gone through something similar in the past may make it easier to deal with, but it doesn't excuse her behavior. It's understandable if you need some time apart from her to think. At the very least she should apologize.