I'm going to cancel my daughter's visit with her dad
Oh wow. Why are you cancelling her visit with her dad?
As I can see, my daughter doesn't really want to visit her father. I really don't know what is her reason though.
Well, you need to ask her what is the reason why she doesn't want to meet with her father and you need to report it to the officials if he did something wrong with her.
Maybe it's better for me to just have a daughter that hates herself.
I wouldn't wish that and I feel like you're dismissing your daughter's wishes and I do hope you support her with her wishes and try to see it in her perspective as she is developing and need the best support that she can have in her age.