I don't want to visit my mom at all even though I was spoiled rotten as a kid and still get help occasionally
That seems harsh. What kind of help do you get from her?
She has taken care of me and my family. Anyway, I hate her now and I'm not going to visit her. I can't take it anymore.
You shouldn't expect to get things from people if you're mean to them or don't visit them. You should visit your mom. She cares about you.
But I don't care about her.
That's fair, but if you don't visit her then you shouldn't expect her to keep helping you out. People generally don't want to help others who don't treat them well.