I am a woman who lives in a harem but everyone thinks we are just housemates.
This sounds so interesting! How many people are in your harem? And why would people think they are your housemates?
I treat the men in my harem as housemates.
You shouldn't be ashamed about how you live, you are very unique and you should rock it. Being in a harem works for you, so you should advocate for healthy harems. You don't need to hide in shame like this.
I don't want any attention, and I want to get away from this.
If you don't want attention, that is also fine. You can live your life the way that you want to.