I have life long parent issues
Do you have life long issues with both of your parents?
Yes, I disagree with a lot of the things that they did.
You should make an attempt to heal the problems that you have with your parents. Doing so will increase the level of social support that you have in your life.
I have tried to but they are still shitty parents.
You should keep trying because sometimes someone's stance on things can change as time goes by. Even if they don't want to fix things at least keep the door open for them. That way you can say you did everything and feel like you tried.