I think my wife should defend me to her mother. Is that too much to ask?
Why do you think your wife should defend you?
Her mother is always putting me down and making me feel terrible.
It's understandable that you want your wife to speak up for you to her mother if her mother is constantly putting you down. Partners are supposed to defend each other, and your wife is in a better position to talk to her mother than you are.
Thank you for understanding. I just wish that my wife would defend me more in front of her mother.
You need to tell her how you feel too so she knows that you want to be defended.