I don't think my wife knows that I was a virgin before we were together.
What makes you think she doesn't know that?
She never asked me and I didn't say anything about it specifically, but I want to keep it a secret.
I can see why you might be nervous or embarrassed by this. The fact is quite a few people are virgins when they get married. If your wife loves you, then she'll be understanding and respectful of you. You'll feel better if you tell her the truth.
I've really been hurting for sexual satisfaction for so long and it's still painful but I am still not going to tell her about being a virgin.
It is ok to want to have a healthy sex life with your wife. I think the sooner you talk with her the better you may feel.