I'm going to point out my mother did not do an 'awesome job' at teaching her kids swimming
Huh? What do you mean by that?
She didn't teach me to swim in time so I almost died in the pool recently
If you cannot swim, then do not go into the deep end of the pool. Take lessons before you do that.
I want to blame her and ensure my mother never forgets.
You can blame her for not teaching you to swim, but going into the pool without knowing how to swim is on you. You should keep yourself safer in those situations.