I plan on punishing my teenage daughter pretty harshly since I caught her playing with a beer can.
What was so wrong about her playing with a beer can?
I've heard too many bad things about alcohol culture for me to allow this!
I understand you don't want your children to be around alcohol. I think you should take a step back and not be so aggressive when making it known how you feel about alcohol.
She need to start respecting rules and take things seriously.
I understand where you're coming from, I just feel like being too harsh with her may not get the message across to her. Like you said she was just playing with the can, there is no indication she was drinking it.