I want to call my dad up today to tell him to quit being lazy and making excuses for himself and find a job
What do you think will happen if you do that?
I think he will get motivated
I get your concern, but it's mean to tell your dad what to do. He is a grown adult and can do what he wants.
He will feel better if I yell at him.
I doubt he will feel better when you yell at him because people don't like being yelled at.