What is the dumbest thing you have heard blamed on the patriarchy?
I am not sure what you mean here?
Women make up things as an excuse to blame men for. Misandry is real
It seems like you're really overrating how many feminists are actually misandrists and you may really like to watch this movie with me that I think will help to highlight what a lot of women have to deal with. It's on Netflix, and I can share my account if you want to give it a try, maybe then you won't find this so upsetting.