I don't want to go to my husbands paternal father's house ever again
Is there a reason you don't want to go there anymore?
It's because I'm worried that there'll be drama about my personal life or that they'd critique my cooking.
You don't need to get along with every single family member, and that's all good. But in the end it's best to work things out to at least a holiday greeting level, to the point you can just acknowledge each other as a sort of peace making.
Okay, I'll try.
Thats a really big step you are taking. If you becomes too much you should be able to talk freely about it.