I want my husband to be chivalrous
Do you like when your husband act chivalrous?
Yeah, I think women enjoy chivalry although some claim to not.
It is okay to want your husband to act more chivalrous and that you like it when he does. But you should not tell him what he should do and control his actions.
I won't tell him what he should do.
That's great. You can reinforce the good behavior by complementing and showing appreciation to him when he does it and evrybody wins.