I'm thinking of my transgender wife whipping me for having transphobic thoughts even though I don't have them and even if I did how would she know?
Why would your wife to that to you in the first place?
for my ultimate fantasy of being whipped
Hitting and abusing someone during sex is not love. You should get help for these fantasies.
It's just a fantasy. I didn't say I want it to happen in real life.
Even though it is just a fantasy, it is still wrong to have thoughts of hitting or abusing someone. There may be some other issues going on that you may need to talk to someone about.