I don't want to drink with my friends kids
What is your reason for not wanting to drink with them?
I don't want to be like my father
You don't have to hang out with you friend's kids if you don't want to. If you don't enjoy it, don't waste your time and bring everyone down by not wanting to do it.
I hate my father and I am not going to do anything to show him I'm proud of him.
I am sorry to hear that, maybe you will find joy in hanging out with kids to rebuild a new kind of relationship.