I don't want to give up my housekeeper
Is there a reason why you're saying this to me, is she leaving you?
Housekeepers give me a sense of command over others
I feel like you're misdirecting your control issues towards your housekeepers, as they are there to clean your house and not for you to boss them around. I suggest you find a therapist who can help you manage your controlling behaviors.
My job pays me good so I can afford housekeeper.
I know that your job pays you good, but there's no real reason why you would command your housekeepers that they may feel like slaves. I feel like you do not really mean them harm, but I suggest you change your outlook from them being inferior to you to them being hired employees that have feelings and desires like you.