Is it okay if I want my wife to lose weight so I purposely and systematically cause her to have body issues?
What did you do to cause your wife to have body issues?
I kept telling her that she was too heavy and upsetting sexual experiences
You should be supportive of your wife rather than critical or distant. Talk to her about staying in shape rather than trying to psychologically manipulate her into losing weight.
You are so naive. #believemen
Do you not want your wife to be happy with herself? Show her how much you love her and compliment her on her appearances. If she is trying to become fit, then do it along side her to help motivate her.