Fix bug with long timeout when consumer left ungracefully (#19503)

[nerhneiro]

Changelog entry

Fix bug with long 5 min timeout while rebalancing if there was an ungraceful consumer in a group.

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Description for reviewers

Аналогичный PR в main: #19503

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⚪ 2025-06-24 12:05:29 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-release-asan for 0b9286e has started.
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🟡 2025-06-24 13:19:41 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. This fail is not in blocking policy yet Going to retry failed tests...

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
12045	11911	0	31	67	36

⚪ 2025-06-24 13:20:46 UTC ya make is running... (failed tests rerun, try 2)
🟡 2025-06-24 13:40:58 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. This fail is not in blocking policy yet Going to retry failed tests...

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
172 (only retried tests)	71	0	8	59	34

⚪ 2025-06-24 13:41:06 UTC ya make is running... (failed tests rerun, try 3)
🟡 2025-06-24 14:00:53 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. This fail is not in blocking policy yet

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat | Test bloat | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
130 (only retried tests)	44	0	7	45	34

🟢 2025-06-24 14:01:00 UTC Build successful.
🟢 2025-06-24 14:01:28 UTC ydbd size 3.7 GiB changed* by +13.8 KiB, which is < 100.0 KiB vs stable-25-1-2: OK

ydbd size dash	stable-25-1-2: 11c9f55	merge: 0b9286e	diff	diff %
ydbd size	3 927 687 624 Bytes	3 927 701 800 Bytes	+13.8 KiB	+0.000%
ydbd stripped size	1 373 422 832 Bytes	1 373 433 648 Bytes	+10.6 KiB	+0.001%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}

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⚪ 2025-06-24 12:05:29 UTC Pre-commit check linux-x86_64-relwithdebinfo for 0b9286e has started.
⚪ 2025-06-24 12:05:41 UTC Artifacts will be uploaded here
⚪ 2025-06-24 12:08:29 UTC ya make is running...
🟡 2025-06-24 13:05:33 UTC Some tests failed, follow the links below. Going to retry failed tests...

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
18886	17608	0	2	1213	63

⚪ 2025-06-24 13:07:21 UTC ya make is running... (failed tests rerun, try 2)
🟢 2025-06-24 13:30:17 UTC Tests successful.

Test history | Ya make output | Test bloat | Test bloat

TESTS	PASSED	ERRORS	FAILED	SKIPPED	MUTED?
131 (only retried tests)	69	0	0	6	56

🟢 2025-06-24 13:30:27 UTC Build successful.
🟢 2025-06-24 13:30:56 UTC ydbd size 2.1 GiB changed* by +11.6 KiB, which is < 100.0 KiB vs stable-25-1-2: OK

ydbd size dash	stable-25-1-2: aca54ab	merge: 0b9286e	diff	diff %
ydbd size	2 257 901 336 Bytes	2 257 913 184 Bytes	+11.6 KiB	+0.001%
ydbd stripped size	477 951 576 Bytes	477 955 160 Bytes	+3.5 KiB	+0.001%

^{*please be aware that the difference is based on comparing your commit and the last completed build from the post-commit, check comparation}

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🟢 2025-06-27 14:59:56 UTC The validation of the Pull Request description is successful.