[Java] Refactor metrics system

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Java Arrow has some support for metrics (backed by yammers metrics), but by default, no reporter is registered. Also, it means that Arrow is tied to a specific metric system.

I suggest to replace the metric systen with a listener on allocation so that user can use it with the metrics library of its choice

Reporter: Laurent Goujon / @laurentgo

_{Note: This issue was originally created as ARROW-385. Please see the migration documentation for further details.}

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