[Java] Ensure Flight with native Netty transport is actually being tested

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There's only one test that exercises the domain socket path and it appears it's getting skipped on CI

[INFO] Running org.apache.arrow.flight.TestServerOptions
Warning:  Tests run: 5, Failures: 0, Errors: 0, Skipped: 1, Time elapsed: 0.024 s - in org.apache.arrow.flight.TestServerOptions 

We should make sure this test works and figure out whatever Maven magic we need to get the right dependencies on the right platforms

Reporter: David Li / @lidavidm

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