deps: disable node options in node submodule

[gnahzak]

Fix for issue #12695: starting Electron with Node options (export NODE_OPTIONS=--max-old-space-size=4096) resulted in a segfault. This was originally caused by calling node::Init() with a null pointer for argv, which occurs when NODE_WITHOUT_NODE_OPTIONS is undefined. We attempted defining NODE_WITHOUT_NODE_OPTIONS in electron.gyp but the definition did not propagate, so we defined it in node.gyp instead so we ended up changing common.gypi to introduce the definition for node compilation.

Fix coded with @sethlu, with the help of @codebytere @nitsakh @groundwater and @nornagon.

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