…ption and deprecating onlyIfVersionsMatch

What's changed?

see title

What's your motivation?

Closes #4138

Anything in particular you'd like reviewers to focus on?

• Open to alternative designs for the new argument
• I can just remove the deprecated bits immediately if preferred
• Not sure if the pseudo-enum is desirable

Anyone you would like to review specifically?

@sambsnyd had made the previous change which this PR is in response to

Have you considered any alternatives or workarounds?

Any additional context

Checklist

• I've added unit tests to cover both positive and negative cases
• I've read and applied the recipe conventions and best practices
• I've used the IntelliJ IDEA auto-formatter on affected files