Python 3.12 support and Windows and M1 testing

[kafitzgerald]

PR Summary

Adds Python 3.12 support and Windows and M1 to test matrix.

For what it's worth, it looks like the M1 runners are slated to become macos-latest sometime in late spring / summer of 2024.

Closes #167 and #193

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[jukent]

yes love it