GEODE-5819: fix ssl test failures in jdk11

[jinmeiliao]

1. do not call getSession after startHandshake on a socket to make it TLS1.3 compliant
2. when using TLS1.3 protocol in the tests, make sure to user a certificate that are TLS1.3 compliant.

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