migrate to cilium

[Despire]

closes #961

Afther some changes to the nodepools some of the cilium pods wouldn't get ready to solve this kubectl rollout restart daemonset cilium is executed after changes to the cluster (i.e deleting nodes or adding nodes)

Part of this PR is also using a new version of Longhorn (hasn't been updated for while)

for cilium this config was used in kubeone:

clusterNetwork:
  kubeProxy:
    skipInstallation: true
  cni:
    cilium:
      enableHubble: false
      kubeProxyReplacement: "strict"

This basically installs cilium with eBPF, and doesn't install hubble by default. Ref

Tests passed without issues

[cloudziu]

LGMT 👍