build: add dbbackend selection and bump tm-db

[dongsam]

Description

e.g. make install COSMOS_BUILD_OPTIONS=rocksdb TENDERMINT_BUILD_OPTIONS=rocksdb BUILD_TAGS=rocksdb

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