feat: add create or replace user support

[lichuang]

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Summary

feat: add create or replace user support, also refactor drop_table_by_id.

• Fixes Feature: add create or replace user support #14582

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Explain why

Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
• Other (please describe):

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[drmingdrmer]

Reviewed 19 of 19 files at r1, all commit messages.
Reviewable status: complete! all files reviewed, all discussions resolved (waiting on @lichuang)

[lichuang]

@soyeric128

[BohuTANG]

Batch into one issue: datafuselabs/databend-docs#486