chore: default enable aggregate/sort/join spill

[BohuTANG]

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Summary

This PR default enable spill in the settings:

1. join_spilling_memory_ratio=60
2. aggregate_spilling_memory_ratio=60
3. sort_spilling_memory_ratio=60
4. Add test for the spill enabled e9b5f2e

• Fixes #[Link the issue here]

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Exists Tests

Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
• Other (please describe):