feat(node): Allow to configure maxSpanWaitDuration

[lforst]

Adds back #12492.

We were experimenting with #12510 but found it infeasible to do: #12577 (comment)

Closes #12510

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[mydea]

I renamed this to drop the "revert" part from the PR title, let's and adjust the default in a follow up PR!

[lforst]

@mydea I wasn't aware we were gonna change the default. What do we wanna change it to?

[mydea]

@mydea I wasn't aware we were gonna change the default. What do we wanna change it to?

let's talk about this in a follow up, IMHO I'd make it higher as now, but what... not quite sure. maybe 1h? 🤔

[lforst]

I think we cannot increase it to such a high number with good conscience. The memory pressure buildup could be insane. We should probably limit the number of spans we store in the exporter?