Ci tweak3

[hathach]

Describe the PR

• enable --one-per-family to build 1 board per family, also skip family if board specified in -b also present
• minimize ci run for push event
  • only build one board per family
  • skip hil test on both pi4 and hfp
• full build will be runn for PR event
• IAR always build 1 board per family regardless of event
• update build.py to optimize make
• remove all setup python since we don't really need it