Fix retry logic in service controller

[MrHohn]

What this PR does / why we need it: Make service controller don't retry on doNotRetry service update failure.

Which issue this PR fixes (optional, in fixes #<issue number>(, fixes #<issue_number>, ...) format, will close that issue when PR gets merged): fixes #54183

Special notes for your reviewer:
/assign @nicksardo @bowei

Release note:

Fix for service controller so that it won't retry on doNotRetry service update failure.

[nicksardo]

/lgtm

[MrHohn]

/retest

[MrHohn]

/assign @mikedanese
for approval.

[bowei]

/approve

[MrHohn]

/approve

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This pull-request has been approved by: bowei, MrHohn, nicksardo

Associated issue: 54183

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