Unify feel of install, upgrade and update

[alenkacz]

What type of PR is this?
/component kudoctl
/kind cleanup

What this PR does / why we need it:
this unifies the feel of kudo update, upgrade and install.
Until this PR, the situation was looking as follow:

kudo install <package-location> --instance <instance-name> -p a=b
kudo upgrade <package-location> --instance <instance-name> -p a=b
kudo update <instance-name> -p a=b

Which issue(s) this PR fixes:

Fixes #

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Does this PR introduce a user-facing change?:

NONE

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[kensipe]

/lgtm