Fix ReferenceManyField renders too often

[fzaninotto]

Problem

ReferenceManyField rerenders whenever something in the resource changes. even unrelated changes like selected ids. This wastes CPU time and slows down List page interactions (a bit).

Solution

Fix the data selector in useGetMany, which uses reselect to memoize the result... But has a too broad dependency array.

Before

Check the Tags column: all rows rerender when only one row is selected

After

Now only the selected row rerenders