[data grid] v7 API: Make the behavior of GridColDef flags consistent

[MBilalShafi]

The main goal to address:
Make the colDef flags work like this, if a flag is passed as false, it should only be disallowed from the UI and not using the API.

For example if for a column, colDef.sortable is false. The sorting won't work using the grid UI, however apiRef.current.sortColumn will update the sorting as expected.

Context: #10180 (comment)

The flags which ✅ already work as expected:

• ✅ hideable
• ✅ resizable (auto-sizing works like so, basic resizing has no public API method available)

The flags/items to update

• colDef.sortable: [DataGrid] Allow to programmatically sort unsortable columns #11512
• colDef.groupable: [DataGridPremium] Allow programmatically grouping non-groupable columns #11539
• colDef.pinnable (does not work as expected too, I was mistaken previously): [DataGridPro] Allow non-pinnable columns to be pinned programmatically #11680
• colDef.filterable: [DataGrid] Allow to filter non-filterable columns programmatically #11538
• colDef.aggregable: [DataGridPremium] Allow aggregation to be applied for non-aggregable columns #11574

[cherniavskii]

This change should be communicated in the docs:

• in sections covering controlled models
• https://mui.com/x/react-data-grid/api-object/
• ?