Check a note is on a visible stave before checking cross staff validity

[miiizen]

Resolves: #19765

This was causing issues in parts where an instrument with cross staff notes had been added and then hidden again. This caused the note to fail the checkStaffMoveValidity check, when the staff wasn't visible and shouldn't have been checked.

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