View entire thread in folder

[laburnumT]

I would like to have the option of the entire thread (including my
replies that are in a different sent folder) being visible in my inbox.
I have found a couple of ways to do this, but I'm not that happy with
them, so I was wondering if there's a better way.

Option one:
set record = +Inbox
or
my_hdr Bcc: myname@mydomain

The downside of this is that all the emails show up in my inbox, even
when they don't belong there, and that all the emails are duplicated.

Option two:
bind index,pager + entire-thread

This creates a new vfolder for just this thread as far as I can tell.
This works ok, but it's very annoying to have been teleported out of the
folder I was in, and then when I go back to the original folder, I have
lost where I was.

Option three:
virtual-mailboxes Inbox "notmuch://?query=folder:Inbox&type=threads"
or
virtual-mailboxes Inbox "notmuch://?query=folder:Inbox"
combined with option 2.

This works best for my threading desires, but comes with its own
problems. Searching the mailbox appears to be much slower, and when new
emails come in, they no longer show up in the index or trigger a
notification, until I actively do something in neomutt. This is rather
annoying, as I like to have neomutt open on one monitor, so I can see
when new emails come in.

I think it would be ideal to have the regular folder mailbox (maybe
combined with option two), and have the thread appear in the index I am
using, but I think that might not be possible with a regular folder, and
a vfolder is required instead.

Is what I want achievable, or should I just pick one of the above and
live with the downsides?