proxy: fix overloaded db connection closure

[conradludgate]

Problem

possible for the database connections to not close in time.

Summary of changes

force the closing of connections if the client has hung up

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[khanova]

Thanks!

[github-actions]

2772 tests run: 2654 passed, 0 failed, 118 skipped (full report)

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Flaky tests (1)

Postgres 14

• test_timetravel: release

Code coverage* (full report)

• functions: 28.0% (6428 of 22962 functions)
• lines: 46.6% (45019 of 96565 lines)

* collected from Rust tests only

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