Fix unexpected sqlite insert behaviour (attempt 2)

[NowackiPatryk]

• fixes into sqlite INSERT is based on column order rather than name #11429
• fixes into sqlite expects column order to be the same thoughout the data #12011

Refers to: #12039

In general looks a bit faster now.

[NowackiPatryk]

@rgwood Moved unnecessary stuff out of loop so it should be a bit faster now.

[rgwood]

Thanks! into sqlite seems about 1.5x slower than before the fix, which is acceptable and much better than the previous PR (1000x).

Don't think it needs to happen in this PR, but it would be nice to have tests to verify that the column order does not matter.