Update base for Update on "recompile fx.GraphModule lazily"

Context: eellison 's review comment [here](#103642 (comment)) complains about my code calling `torch.fx.GraphModule.recompile` after I changed the graph.  We didn't simply remove the call to `recompile` at that time since that increases the risk that user see or run stale python code. In this PR, I recompile GraphModule lazily without increasing the risk that user see/run stale python code.

When training BertForMaskedLM, the `GraphModule.recompile` is called 707 times and takes 1.8s in total. The whole compilation takes around 60 seconds.

By spot checking, I found the main reason we call recompile so frequently is due to inductor pattern matcher. E.g., if we want to replace src_fn with dst_fn, we need trace both src_fn and dst_fn. After tracing is done, we create a GraphModule. The init method of GraphModule will call recompile.

By doing recompile lazily, we reduce the number of calls for `GraphModule._real_recompile` (in this PR, `recompile` just mark the class as needing recompilation and is very light weight. `_real_recompile` does the real recompilation) to 37 times and reduces its total execution time to 0.045s.



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