[v23.1.x] config: enable crash_loop_limit by default

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #13431 to branch v23.1.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v23.1.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-13431-v23.1.x-157
git cherry-pick -x 43749ea62067cf6d72512d144b36794076622cbd 12b5afa1bdbf944d2f68d5d98865fb07760310f3

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-13431-v23.1.x-157
gh pr create \
  --title "[v23.1.x] config: enable crash_loop_limit by default" \
  --base "v23.1.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-13431-v23.1.x-157" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --reviewer "piyushredpanda" \
  --milestone "v23.1.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/13431 "