[v23.1.x] net: GNUTLS_E_DECRYPTION_FAILED is_reconnect_error

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #14823 to branch v23.1.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v23.1.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-14823-v23.1.x-242
git cherry-pick -x d4d7a4b2853954ce2010642f54268452a7fea8c7

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-14823-v23.1.x-242
gh pr create \
  --title "[v23.1.x] net: GNUTLS_E_DECRYPTION_FAILED is_reconnect_error" \
  --base "v23.1.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-14823-v23.1.x-242" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --reviewer "r-vasquez" \
  --milestone "v23.1.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/14823 "