fix: clean dirty state and notify for expired worker nodes in cluster controller

[yezizp2012]

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Fix #16884 , previously when worker node is expired, the in-memory worker extra info is not cleaned and the delete operation is not notified. This will cause CN to send a heartbeat to meta after networkchaos but not receives the correct error message and exit as expect. Without re-registering, it will result in no available nodes for auto scaling in recovery.

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