[chore] Update bun / sqlite versions; update gtsmodels

[tsmethurst]

This PR upsteps our bun and sqlite dependencies to the latest versions.

In order to make this work, bool values on many database models had to be changed from bool to *bool, due to a change in bun.

The PR also adds some logic into the database to update db entries more selectively when using UpdateByID -- callers can now pass in the specific columns they wish to update.

For reviewers:

• These are the commits where bools are changed to bool pointers: 672b313 93db2ad (arguably the most crucial part of the PR)
• Everything in the vendor subdirectories doesn't need to be reviewed, it's just updating dependencies.

Closes #486

Deployed this on both gts.superseriousbusiness.org and goblin.technology (docker/postgres and binary/sqlite respectively) and it seems stable so far.

[NyaaaWhatsUpDoc]

Deployed this on both gts.superseriousbusiness.org and goblin.technology (docker/postgres and binary/sqlite respectively) and it seems stable so far.

Just to double check, have you grepped your logs for any nil-ptr related panics?

[tsmethurst]

Just to double check, have you grepped your logs for any nil-ptr related panics?

Yeah :) Only one cropped up, which led to 7ab8181, and since then I haven't seen any more