raftstore: skip clearing callback when shutdown (#10364)

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cherry-pick #10364 to release-3.0
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What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number:
close #10353
close #10307

Problem Summary:

If callbacks are cleared during shutdown, latch may not work as expected
as it expects deterministic result. So this PR drops all callbacks
instead of invoking.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test

Release note

skip clearing callback during gracefully shutdown to avoid breaking ACID in some cases

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/run-all-tests

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