Refactor the create and patch service logic in haprovider

[lubronzhan]

Bug description
The haprovider logic is not correctly createAndPatch service. some of the fields won't be patched after created. it should use something like below to correctly patch service in case service is modified incorrectly by human

https://github.com/kubernetes-sigs/cluster-api-provider-vsphere/blob/main/pkg/services/vimmachine.go#L310-L374

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