[binary-addons] add additional arguments to the build scripts

[Rechi]

Description

• allow passing ADDON_SRC_PREFIX, ADDONS_DEFINITION_DIR, extra arguments to cmake via the build scripts
• add packaging support for depends platforms
• allow depends optimisations also for release configurations

Motivation and Context

needed for binary addons repo

How Has This Been Tested?

https://jenkins.kodi.tv/view/Addons/job/xbmc/

Types of change

• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• Clean up (non-breaking change which removes non-working, unmaintained functionality)
• Improvement (non-breaking change which improves existing functionality)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that will cause existing functionality to change)
• Cosmetic change (non-breaking change that doesn't touch code)
• None of the above (please explain below)

Checklist:

• My code follows the Code Guidelines of this project
• My change requires a change to the documentation, either Doxygen or wiki
• I have updated the documentation accordingly
• I have read the Contributing document
• I have added tests to cover my change
• All new and existing tests passed

[wsnipex]

looks good

[Rechi]

The FreeBSD failure is unrelated as this PR only changes windows and depends build files, which aren't used.