[YSQL] Import Check for too many postmaster children before spawning a bgworker.

[tedyu]

Jira Link: DB-3461

Description

Upstream commit was 3887e9455f812035473eee1cba0cf9c237969998

The postmaster's code path for spawning a bgworker neglected to check
whether we already have the max number of live child processes.  That's
a bit hard to hit, since it would necessarily be a transient condition;
but if we do, AssignPostmasterChildSlot() fails causing a postmaster
crash, as seen in a report from Bhargav Kamineni.

To fix, invoke canAcceptConnections() in the bgworker code path, as we
do in the other code paths that spawn children.  Since we don't want
the same pmState tests in this case, add a child-process-type parameter
to canAcceptConnections() so that it can know what to do.

Back-patch to 9.5.  In principle the same hazard exists in 9.4, but the
code is enough different that this patch wouldn't quite fix it there.
Given the tiny usage of bgworkers in that branch it doesn't seem worth
creating a variant patch for it.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/18733.1570382257@sss.pgh.pa.us

[tedyu]

cc @sushantrmishra