msg/async: add "queue_reset" argument

[yuyuyu101]

Signed-off-by: Haomai Wang haomai@xsky.com

[yuyuyu101]

fix rebase conflicting introduced(#9781)

[xiexingguo]

How about this(so we don't have to change the default behaviour of stop too much):

-  void stop(bool queue_reset) {
+  void stop(bool queue_reset = true) {
     lock.Lock();
     bool need_queue_reset = (state != STATE_CLOSED) && queue_reset;

[yuyuyu101]

... there is no much difference since it's a internal interface. if possible we should be prefer avoid default argument value

[xiexingguo]

Ok, suit yourself.

[tchaikov]

lgtm.