Merge issue about large data part with lightweight delete

[jewelzqiu]

Use case

When a data part is larger than max_bytes_to_merge_at_max_space_in_pool, lightweight deleted data inside the data part will never be really deleted unless OPTIMIZE FINAL is executed.

Describe the solution you'd like

When selecting parts to merge, use estimated existed rows size
(bytes_on_disk * (rows_count - lwd_rows_count) / rows_count) as the source part size instead of bytes_on_disk.
We can enable this mode only when deleted rows ratio exceeds a certain value (maybe 25%).

[lqhl]

@alexey-milovidov We plan to implement this feature. What are your thoughts on it? Do you think it's a good solution?

[melvynator]

Adding @alesapin as he also might have some thought about the topic.

[alexey-milovidov]

Yes, good idea - it will be appreciated.

[den-crane]

reverted #58097