[SPARK-35132][BUILD][CORE] Upgrade netty-all to 4.1.63.Final

### What changes were proposed in this pull request?
There are 3 CVE problems were found after netty 4.1.51.Final as follows:

- [CVE-2021-21409](https://cve.mitre.org/cgi-bin/cvename.cgi?name=CVE-2021-21409)
- [CVE-2021-21295](https://cve.mitre.org/cgi-bin/cvename.cgi?name=CVE-2021-21295)
- [CVE-2021-21290](https://cve.mitre.org/cgi-bin/cvename.cgi?name=CVE-2021-21290)

So the main change of this pr is upgrade netty-all to 4.1.63.Final avoid these potential risks.

Another change is to clean up deprecated api usage: [Tiny caches have been merged into small caches](https://github.com/netty/netty/blob/4.1/buffer/src/main/java/io/netty/buffer/PooledByteBufAllocator.java#L447-L455)(after [netty#10267](netty/netty#10267)) and [should use  PooledByteBufAllocator(boolean, int, int, int, int, int, int, boolean, int)](https://github.com/netty/netty/blob/4.1/buffer/src/main/java/io/netty/buffer/PooledByteBufAllocator.java#L227-L239) api to create `PooledByteBufAllocator`.

### Why are the changes needed?
Upgrade netty-all to 4.1.63.Final avoid CVE problems.

### Does this PR introduce _any_ user-facing change?
No

### How was this patch tested?
Pass the Jenkins or GitHub Action

Closes #32227 from LuciferYang/SPARK-35132.

Authored-by: yangjie01 <yangjie01@baidu.com>
Signed-off-by: Sean Owen <srowen@gmail.com>

common/network-common/src/main/java/org/apache/spark/network/util/NettyUtils.java

@@ -162,7 +162,6 @@ public static PooledByteBufAllocator createPooledByteBufAllocator(
       Math.min(PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultNumDirectArena(), allowDirectBufs ? numCores : 0),
       PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultPageSize(),
       PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultMaxOrder(),
-      allowCache ? PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultTinyCacheSize() : 0,
       allowCache ? PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultSmallCacheSize() : 0,
       allowCache ? PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultNormalCacheSize() : 0,
       allowCache ? PooledByteBufAllocator.defaultUseCacheForAllThreads() : false

dev/deps/spark-deps-hadoop-2.7-hive-2.3

@@ -188,7 +188,7 @@ metrics-jmx/4.1.1//metrics-jmx-4.1.1.jar
 metrics-json/4.1.1//metrics-json-4.1.1.jar
 metrics-jvm/4.1.1//metrics-jvm-4.1.1.jar
 minlog/1.3.0//minlog-1.3.0.jar
-netty-all/4.1.51.Final//netty-all-4.1.51.Final.jar
+netty-all/4.1.63.Final//netty-all-4.1.63.Final.jar
 objenesis/2.6//objenesis-2.6.jar
 okhttp/3.12.12//okhttp-3.12.12.jar
 okio/1.14.0//okio-1.14.0.jar

dev/deps/spark-deps-hadoop-3.2-hive-2.3

@@ -159,7 +159,7 @@ metrics-jmx/4.1.1//metrics-jmx-4.1.1.jar
 metrics-json/4.1.1//metrics-json-4.1.1.jar
 metrics-jvm/4.1.1//metrics-jvm-4.1.1.jar
 minlog/1.3.0//minlog-1.3.0.jar
-netty-all/4.1.51.Final//netty-all-4.1.51.Final.jar
+netty-all/4.1.63.Final//netty-all-4.1.63.Final.jar
 objenesis/2.6//objenesis-2.6.jar
 okhttp/3.12.12//okhttp-3.12.12.jar
 okio/1.14.0//okio-1.14.0.jar

pom.xml

@@ -744,7 +744,7 @@
       <dependency>
         <groupId>io.netty</groupId>
         <artifactId>netty-all</artifactId>
-        <version>4.1.51.Final</version>
+        <version>4.1.63.Final</version>
       </dependency>
       <dependency>
         <groupId>org.apache.derby</groupId>