[SPARK-29048] Improve performance on Column.isInCollection() with a large size collection

[WeichenXu123]

What changes were proposed in this pull request?

The Column.isInCollection() with a large size collection will generate an expression with large size children expressions. This make analyzer and optimizer take a long time to run.
In this PR, in isInCollection() function, directly generate InSet expression, avoid generating too many children expressions.

Why are the changes needed?

Column.isInCollection() with a large size collection sometimes become a bottleneck when running sql.

Does this PR introduce any user-facing change?

No.

How was this patch tested?

Manually benchmark it in spark-shell:

def testExplainTime(collectionSize: Int) = {
        val df = spark.range(10).withColumn("id2", col("id") + 1)
        val list = Range(0, collectionSize).toList
        val startTime = System.currentTimeMillis() 
        df.where(col("id").isInCollection(list)).where(col("id2").isInCollection(list)).explain()
        val elapsedTime = System.currentTimeMillis() - startTime
        println(s"cost time: ${elapsedTime}ms")
}

Then test on collection size 5, 10, 100, 1000, 10000, test result is:

collection size	explain time (before)	explain time (after)
5	26ms	29ms
10	30ms	48ms
100	104ms	50ms
1000	1202ms	58ms
10000	10012ms	523ms

[SparkQA]

Test build #110470 has finished for PR 25754 at commit 5d79149.

• This patch passes all tests.
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[SparkQA]

Test build #110510 has finished for PR 25754 at commit ab3e5d4.

• This patch passes all tests.
• This patch merges cleanly.
• This patch adds no public classes.

[SparkQA]

Test build #110534 has finished for PR 25754 at commit b60cd94.

• This patch passes all tests.
• This patch merges cleanly.
• This patch adds no public classes.

[gatorsmile]

LGTM after minor changes in test cases.

Thanks! Merged to master.