release-21.1: sql: require placeholder types to be identical to use a cached plan

[blathers-crl]

Backport 1/1 commits from #67651 on behalf of @rafiss.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

Release justification: low-impact but high-reward bug fix

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fixes #67605

Release note (bug fix): Fix a bug where a prepared statement could
incorrectly reuse the query plan of a different prepared statements that
had similar, but not identical type hints.

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[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Please check the backport criteria before merging:

• Patches should only be created for serious issues.
• Patches should not break backwards-compatibility.
• Patches should change as little code as possible.
• Patches should not change on-disk formats or node communication protocols.
• Patches should not add new functionality.

If some of the basic criteria cannot be satisfied, ensure that the exceptional criteria are satisfied within.

• There is a high priority need for the functionality that cannot wait until the next release and is difficult to address in another way.
• The new functionality is additive-only and only runs for clusters which have specifically “opted in” to it (e.g. by a cluster setting).
• New code is protected by a conditional check that is trivial to verify and ensures that it only runs for opt-in clusters.
• The PM and TL on the team that owns the changed code have signed off that the change obeys the above rules.

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• What did we do to ensure that a user that doesn’t know & care about this backport, has no idea that it happened?
• Will this work in a cluster of mixed patch versions? Did we test that?
• If a user upgrades a patch version, uses this feature, and then downgrades, what happens?

[cockroach-teamcity]

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[joschi]

Hey folks, 👋
is there any way we can help you with getting this patch into the CockroachDB 21.1.x version line?
It's kind of blocking us from upgrading from CockroachDB 20.2.x to 21.1.x. 😅

[rafiss]

It should be in the 21.1.8 patch release -- scheduled to come out next month

[joschi]

@rafiss Awesome, thank you very much! 😄