release-22.2.0: upgrades: add migration to remove corrupt userfile fk constraint

[stevendanna]

Backport 1/1 commits from #88878.

/cc @cockroachdb/release

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In previous releases, userfiles would create broken tables because
of incorrect use of the internal executor. As a result, any user that
has used userfile, would fail the 22.2 upgrade precondition check.

This does 2 things:

• 1 allows the precondition to pass even in the presence of an invalid
  object as long as that object is very likely the userfile payload table.

• Adds a new migration that removes the foreign key mutation for userfile
  payload tables.

We determine whether something is a "userfile payload table" by checking
its name, the column names, the column types, the name of the referenced table,
the column names of the referenced table, and the column types of the referenced table.

Release justification: Avoid having a failed upgrade for every user of
userfile.

[blathers-crl]

Thanks for opening a backport.

Please check the backport criteria before merging:

• Patches should only be created for serious issues or test-only changes.
• Patches should not break backwards-compatibility.
• Patches should change as little code as possible.
• Patches should not change on-disk formats or node communication protocols.
• Patches should not add new functionality.
• Patches must not add, edit, or otherwise modify cluster versions; or add version gates.

If some of the basic criteria cannot be satisfied, ensure that the exceptional criteria are satisfied within.

• There is a high priority need for the functionality that cannot wait until the next release and is difficult to address in another way.
• The new functionality is additive-only and only runs for clusters which have specifically “opted in” to it (e.g. by a cluster setting).
• New code is protected by a conditional check that is trivial to verify and ensures that it only runs for opt-in clusters.
• The PM and TL on the team that owns the changed code have signed off that the change obeys the above rules.

Add a brief release justification to the body of your PR to justify this backport.

Some other things to consider:

• What did we do to ensure that a user that doesn’t know & care about this backport, has no idea that it happened?
• Will this work in a cluster of mixed patch versions? Did we test that?
• If a user upgrades a patch version, uses this feature, and then downgrades, what happens?

[cockroach-teamcity]

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[ajwerner]

Thank you for doing this