Rebuild for CUDA 12 w/arch + Windows support

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Hi! This is the friendly automated conda-forge-linting service.

I just wanted to let you know that I linted all conda-recipes in your PR (recipe) and found it was in an excellent condition.

[jakirkham]

The migrator was updated to add optional support for CUDA 12 Windows

However it overwrote some things we need to workaround a pybind11 + GCC 12 + NVCC 12 bug

Have proposed below to readd the changes needed for the workaround on top of the updated migrator

Will also need a re-render after they are applied to propagate the changes through

xref: pybind/pybind11#4606

[Tobias-Fischer]

@conda-forge-admin please rerender

[Tobias-Fischer]

So is this ok to merge despite not having Windows builds?

[jakirkham]

Yep should be good to go 👍

Windows is simply now an option with CUDA 12 (though not a requirement) 🙂