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[terry-xiaoyu]

Fixes #9409

Some code should also be updated in emqx-enterprise (for emqx_modules_spec), but will not include in this PR.

PR Checklist

Please convert it to a draft if any of the following conditions are not met. Reviewers may skip over until all the items are checked:

• Added tests for the changes
• Changed lines covered in coverage report
• Change log has been added to changes/{ce,ee}/(feat|perf|fix)-<PR-id>.en.md and .zh.md files
• For internal contributor: there is a jira ticket to track this change
• If there should be document changes, a PR to emqx-docs.git is sent, or a jira ticket is created to follow up
• Schema changes are backward compatible

Checklist for CI (.github/workflows) changes

• If changed package build workflow, pass this action (manual trigger)
• Change log has been added to changes/ dir for user-facing artifacts update

[qzhuyan]

changelogs?