kafka: upgrade dependencies to 3.5.1

[adamkotwasinski]

Commit Message: kafka: upgrade dependencies to 3.5.1
Additional Description: cherry-pick of #28932 for envoy v1.24 (other commits were related to mesh-filter, but don't want to backport a whole feature)
Risk Level: Low
Testing: integration testing with full stack; manual testing with adamkotwasinski/envoy-kafka-tests#9
Docs Changes: version numbers
Release Notes: n/a
Platform Specific Features: n/a

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Caused by: #29854 was opened by adamkotwasinski.

see: more, trace.

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CC @envoyproxy/dependency-shepherds: Your approval is needed for changes made to (bazel/.*repos.*\.bzl)|(bazel/dependency_imports\.bzl)|(api/bazel/.*\.bzl)|(.*/requirements\.txt)|(.*\.patch).
envoyproxy/dependency-shepherds assignee is @mattklein123

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Caused by: #29854 was opened by adamkotwasinski.

see: more, trace.

[adamkotwasinski]

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[adamkotwasinski]

/retest

[adamkotwasinski]

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[adamkotwasinski]

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[adamkotwasinski]

just a bit more....
/retest

[phlax]

this branch is pretty flakey unfortunately

[adamkotwasinski]

/retest

[phlax]

@adamkotwasinski it seems like this increases diskspace - probs it was already at the threshold of what is available

we have a hack to workaround this - but im also wondering whether we just dont worry - this branch is set to EOL in a couple of weeks

[adamkotwasinski]

Yeah I guess that's some terrible flakiness and in the end we passed both for main and 1.25 and the changes are not meaningful in any shape - the protocol code would have failed originally, the tests generated would have had the same structure (as Kafka datattypes do not change between 3.4 -> 3.5) so there shouldn't have been any issues.
Especially given it's a tsan build and I don't do anything fancy threading in the changed part :D

[adamkotwasinski]

/assign @phlax

[phlax]

i think it really just is running out of diskspace - the vms for these branches/tests are already at the brink

if we want to land it i can point to some similar code we can add to remove some cruft

[phlax]

we are hitting the diskspace issue elsewhere so ive raised a PR to fix the problem #29900

[adamkotwasinski]

I saw some changes being merged so why not try again :)
/retest

[phlax]

should be good, lgtm, thanks @adamkotwasinski