enhance: [2.4] add the config to control the way when fail to init plugin

[SimFG]

issue: #32679
pr: #32680

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rerun ut

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rerun ut

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Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 81.57%. Comparing base (51e0855) to head (e74ee15).
Report is 4 commits behind head on 2.4.

Additional details and impacted files

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##              2.4   #32682      +/-   ##
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- Coverage   81.58%   81.57%   -0.01%     
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  Files         976      976              
  Lines      120147   120156       +9     
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+ Hits        98019    98021       +2     
  Misses      18396    18396              
- Partials     3732     3739       +7     

Files	Coverage Δ
internal/proxy/hook_interceptor.go	81.25% <100.00%> (+3.83%)	⬆️
pkg/util/paramtable/component_param.go	98.54% <100.00%> (+<0.01%)	⬆️

... and 27 files with indirect coverage changes