[v23.3.x] tx/compaction: don't deduplicate control batches

[vbotbuildovich]

Backport #16295 to branch v23.3.x. Note that this issue was created as a placeholder, since the original PR's commit(s) could not be automatically cherry-picked.
Here are the commands to execute:

git checkout v23.3.x
git checkout -b vbotbuildovich/backport-16295-v23.3.x-982
git cherry-pick -x 4ce65523af2949b732e31b525d4e79b9374e7a40 e949954902236a9d81d71da78db6627b850be7db 0d5911e441304f58aca7b69b1816759a279655ca a5e4544a9208c22965879b2db136799e60a2a6bb 639cd6b4cdd71e03a3b6d0aeadca2097d74666b0 5ad9e142b1b9c3d6ee76ced767e324193335a2d9 54652444072fd950d594f9f7e143570ccfe1dd74 e7a3d54a95e79a32906039436138b811b8838878 ee235730e0bd597d6e1a223477f55cc196367138 0d6bdd559d01901ec31ef9d520dc3714666af4e5 233aa1c94854dea67385c515f189f3ce8e49df9d 2cd253126d7e243e97cac496ead5cda35b223f8b

git push origin vbotbuildovich/backport-16295-v23.3.x-982
gh pr create \
  --title "[v23.3.x] tx/compaction: don't deduplicate control batches" \
  --base "v23.3.x" \
  --label "kind/backport" \
  --head "vbotbuildovich/backport-16295-v23.3.x-982" \
  --draft \
  --repo "redpanda-data/redpanda" \
  --milestone "v23.3.x-next" \
  --body "Backport of PR https://github.com/redpanda-data/redpanda/pull/16295 "

[BenPope]

Fixed by #17100