This is experimental, to work with jupyter_kernel_mgmt.

Ensure that you can SSH to the target machine with no password. Create a file ~/.jupyter/ssh_kernels.toml with contents like this:

[kernels.mydesktop]
address = "10.15.41.11"
argv = ["python3", "-m", "ipykernel_launcher", "-f", "{connection_file}"]
cwd = "/home/takluyver/scratch"
language = "python"

Then test with python3 -m jupyter_ssh_kernels. It should start a kernel over SSH, connect to it, get kernel info, and shut it down cleanly.