fix(test): improve stability of ssr tests

[dominikg]

Description

Additional waits and watcher config for ssr tests so they fail less often

Additional context

removed autoRetry helper as it duplicated functionality from untilUpdated

cc @brillout

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What is the purpose of this pull request?

• Bug fix
• New Feature
• Documentation update
• Other

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[dominikg]

full disclosure, i used --force push to remove a commit that didn't belong in this PR

[brillout]

According to @dominikg, this PR is an improvment to my previous PR #2948. I approve this PR.

[patak-dev]

Linking related discussion in Vite Land for reference