nixos/fail2ban: add option to enable sending mail

[PhilippWoelfel]

Motivation for this change

Addresses #156480 (cannot send mail because the systemd unit is sandboxed). This PR adds the option fail2ban.mail.enable. Setting this prevents adding NoNewPrivileges and ProtectSystem in the systemd unit configuration. It also adds mta=mail to jail.conf.local, and adds the package mailutils.

This PR also adds options fail2ban.mail.destemail and fail2ban.mail.sender that add the corresponding entries to jail.conf.local.

Things done

• Built on platform(s)
  • x86_64-linux
  • aarch64-linux
  • x86_64-darwin
  • aarch64-darwin
• For non-Linux: Is sandbox = true set in nix.conf? (See Nix manual)
• Tested, as applicable:
  • NixOS test(s) (look inside nixos/tests)
  • and/or package tests
  • or, for functions and "core" functionality, tests in lib/tests or pkgs/test
  • made sure NixOS tests are linked to the relevant packages
• Tested compilation of all packages that depend on this change using nix-shell -p nixpkgs-review --run "nixpkgs-review rev HEAD". Note: all changes have to be committed, also see nixpkgs-review usage
• Tested basic functionality of all binary files (usually in ./result/bin/)
• 22.05 Release Notes (or backporting 21.11 Release notes)
  • (Package updates) Added a release notes entry if the change is major or breaking
  • (Module updates) Added a release notes entry if the change is significant
  • (Module addition) Added a release notes entry if adding a new NixOS module
  • (Release notes changes) Ran nixos/doc/manual/md-to-db.sh to update generated release notes
• Fits CONTRIBUTING.md.