Only include Kokkos_Abort.hpp in exceptions.h for Kokkos 4.2.0 and higher

[masterleinad]

The Kokkos 4.2.0 release introduces a Kokkos_Abort.hpp header that only provides Kokkos::abort. Using it in exceptions.h, should help some with #16065 given that we see

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