0404 delay config change replay until handler is ready

[zmstone]

Fixes https://emqx.atlassian.net/browse/EMQX-9457

this is a follow up fix for #10313 so there is no need for change logs.

Summary

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This pull request enhances the cluster RPC feature by upgrading the mria dependency, adding error handling and architecture detection to the buildx.sh script, renaming the emqx_cluster_rpc_handler module to emqx_cluster_rpc_cleaner, and restoring the workaround for the mria issue 94 in the emqx_conf_app module.

PR Checklist

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• Added tests for the changes
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• [~] Schema changes are backward compatible

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