Move kubelet secret and configmap manager calls to sync_Pod functions

[liggitt]

What type of PR is this?

/kind bug

What this PR does / why we need it:

Moves the registration of secret/configmap references into pod worker functions.

xref #105204

The current registration location can make the kubelet start to make requests to fetch secrets/configmaps for pods that would be rejected by kubelet admission and never actually run.

The current unregistration location can make the kubelet forget about secrets/configmaps before a pod has completely terminated, when other subsystems may still need access.

This cuts the "not registered" errors in e2e runs by about 66%. There's still work to do to make the volume subsystem stop trying new mount attempts after the pod lifecycle has marked the pod as terminated to clean up the remaining errors, but that should be done separately by sig-storage

Fix a 1.22 regression in registering configmap and secret objects for volumes handled by the kubelet, resulting in sporadic "not registered" errors

/cc @wojtek-t @smarterclayton

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[wojtek-t]

/lgtm
/approve

Thanks for fixing this!

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[liggitt]

as a note, if this is picked back to any other releases, #107831 should be included as well