MNT: Rename callbacksSM to callbacks

[greglucas]

PR Summary

This makes the code more consistent throughout with objects having a callbacks attribute, rather than associating a name with them on the end and using camelCase.

First noticed by @timhoffm in #19553 (comment)

PR Checklist

• Has pytest style unit tests (and pytest passes).
• Is Flake 8 compliant (run flake8 on changed files to check).
• [N/A] New features are documented, with examples if plot related.
• [N/A] Documentation is sphinx and numpydoc compliant (the docs should build without error).
• Conforms to Matplotlib style conventions (install flake8-docstrings and run flake8 --docstring-convention=all).
• [N/A] New features have an entry in doc/users/next_whats_new/ (follow instructions in README.rst there).
• API changes documented in doc/api/next_api_changes/ (follow instructions in README.rst there).